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8 weeks old - too little for own room?

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julezboo · 09/04/2007 20:32

Hey all

quick question my 8 week old keeps getting his arms stuck in his crib in our room, he is too big for his moses basket so we are considering putting him in his cotbed in his own room. What do you think?

Im a bit wary with him being so young (my first co slept with me till 12 months but then i was single then and didnt have a DP taking up all the room in the bed!!

We could move his cotbed to out room but theres not really room!

TIA

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emwad · 12/04/2007 23:15

I don't know whether I am more upset or angry at the comments you have made Mymama.

'What is unsafe about it? What is going to happen?'

What is going to happen is that you wake up one morning to find your DD2 dead in her cot like we did (Just like the situations your Db attended). Which is something I would not wish on anybody, even my darkest, deepest enemy.

Yes, it is a silent killer, (thank god your baby made a nosie Juuule ) but research does show that having your baby in your room for the 1st 6 mths reduces the risk of SIDS. Maybe Mymama, you were just lucky and I was unlucky???? Who knows?, but asking what is unsafe about it just proves, all the great work the FSID do doesn't reach everyone

Just so you know -
Cot death is uncommon in babies less than a month old, but rises to a peak during the second month. The risk then diminishes as the baby grows older. Nearly 90% of cot deaths have occurred by six months, and very few occur after a year.

I am speaking from experience Mymama, and if I can stop another family having to go through the awful nightmare me and the whole of my family have gone through, I will tell everyone the message again and again and again and again.

booradley · 12/04/2007 23:21

hi, not read all the thread but personally, 8 weeks is too little. I moved dd at 4.5 months because by this time she was starting to look for us when she woke up.

DD also started getting hands / feet trapped thru cot bars so I threaded a folded up thin blanket on each side which stopped her (til she reached 8 months and used bars to help her do a flippy thing but hey, at 8 months they can pretty do what they want .

At the end of the day - do what ever you feel is best - perhaps you could invest in high quality monitors to set your mind at rest . . . ? Get them cheap on ebay?

Hope this helps

booradley · 12/04/2007 23:28

emwad - just read your thread, am so sorry that my thread came straight after, must have seemed very flippant, am really sorry, can't even begin to imagine what its been like, its my worst nightmare. Apologies

emwad · 12/04/2007 23:34

Dont worry Booradley. I know everyone has their own opinions and way of doing things but I honestly wouldn't want anyone to go through what we did.

3andnomore · 12/04/2007 23:39

Hm..in the end it's up to you...it's not somehting I owuld do...apparently Babys are at a hihger risk of cotdeath if they don't roomshare...and that fact would have made me far to wary...also, I did bf, and it was just easier.
Is there a chance you can rearrange the bedroom to make it fit?
Another thing is...are you swaddling, if not...maybe that would help to keep that lil arm out of "trouble"

3andnomore · 12/04/2007 23:41

Should have read the thread...emwad obviously made that point about SIDS, and Emwad very, very sorry to read of your experience...it must have been the worst time in your life. I can only try an imagine just how painful it must have been for you!

mymama · 12/04/2007 23:49

emwad I truly did not mean to upset you and I am sorry for your loss . I would not wish anyone to go through what you have gone through. If my comments upset/angered you in anyway this was not intentional.

The current guidelines were set in place after the relevant ages of my children so I did not disregard their advice.

As any parent, I don't like being told I put my babies in danger and at high risk for SIDS because I did not share a room with them. I followed all other guidelines regarding blankets/bumpers at the time. Which parent would deliberately put their baby at risk?

I read somewhere that sharing the room had something to do with the oxygen levels lowering the risk. This was what my comment of "not hearing the danger" referred to.

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julezboo · 13/04/2007 11:50

Emwad - Thankyou for sharing your story with me sweetie, I am so sorry for your loss

We have decided to keep him in our room for longer. After I wrote this thread he became quite poorly with a cold and Im quite scared to leave him on his own for a second "just in case"

We will continue swaddling him also for the time being too works a treat, although I only do it of a nighttime and last night he slept right through

I didnt mean to cause disagreements so Im sorry for bringing it up!

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emwad · 13/04/2007 11:55

Mymama, after re reading my comments, I think maybe I was abit harsh . I felt your comments were quite judgmental and maybe I took them personally.

The work FSID has done in reducing the number of babies who die is tremendous and it just annoys me when people disregard the guidelines or play down their importance, especially when new mums could be reading it.

I think as its so close to me, all comments hit home

emwad · 13/04/2007 22:22

Julezboo - don't worry about bringing it up, it was only a minor disagreement!!! .
You have definitely done the right thing (IMO) keeping him in with you.

Great to hear he slept through last night . I hope he does tonight too (aswell as mine)

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