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8 weeks old - too little for own room?

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julezboo · 09/04/2007 20:32

Hey all

quick question my 8 week old keeps getting his arms stuck in his crib in our room, he is too big for his moses basket so we are considering putting him in his cotbed in his own room. What do you think?

Im a bit wary with him being so young (my first co slept with me till 12 months but then i was single then and didnt have a DP taking up all the room in the bed!!

We could move his cotbed to out room but theres not really room!

TIA

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ceolas · 09/04/2007 20:32

I wouldn't yet. Too little.

Lio · 09/04/2007 20:34

And just to balance things, I would

Moved dd into her own room after three days, too noisy, all that chuntering around in her sleep.

tinkerbellhadpiles · 09/04/2007 20:34

My LO has been in a cotbed from birth. With no problems.

MerlinsBeard · 09/04/2007 20:34

DS1 was in his own cot in his room at 10 weeks ish. Have you cot bumpers you can use in teh crib to stop your ds getting his arms thru the gaps?

HonorMatopoeia · 09/04/2007 20:35

We had to do this (move cotbed into our way too small room) julezboo as dd was too big for her moses basket after a short time. I personally wasn't comfortable having her sleep in her own room when so little. I think I'd have spent all night camped outside her door so would have got no sleep at all!

harpsichordcarrier · 09/04/2007 20:35

the recommendation of FSIDS is that babies should be in the room with you for the first six months, so personally I wouldn't.
I would move the cot bed into your room.

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julezboo · 09/04/2007 20:36

mumofmonsters- we havn't tbh hes growing that quick i think he will be out of it soon anyway. We havnt got baby moniters yet so may have to wait a week just a bit nervous!

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CarGirl · 09/04/2007 20:37

I too couldn't not stand room sharing, I just didn't get any sleep.

Two of them were in their own room from day 1, the others managed a few days until I booted them out. Mine were too big for moses basket and were fine in their cot.

It's each too their own - what do you feel happy with for yourself

HTH

harpsichordcarrier · 09/04/2007 20:37

(cot bumpers aren't a great idea either tbh}

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julezboo · 09/04/2007 20:39

i think i may move the cotbed into our room tbh, thanks!!! I'll do it tomorrow so DP cant complain lol he'll be at work!

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Oblomov · 09/04/2007 20:41

Ds was in his own room, in a cotbed, within the week. He was such a snorer, grunter, like you wouldn't believe.
Do what feels right.

MerlinsBeard · 09/04/2007 20:41

never used cot bumpers so don't know much about them, just had the thought that they would block the gaps. If you have no monitors i would at least wait until then! Have you tried swaddling?

Ash80 · 09/04/2007 20:42

We put our ds in his own room when he was 9 weeks..Our room is right next to him and we left his door wide open. We all slept much better for it.
As CarGirl said- do what you feel comfortable

clairemow · 09/04/2007 20:43

julezboo, do what you feel comfortable with. There shouldn't be a problem with your LO sleeping in the cot bed - we didn't bother with a moses basket for DS2 at all, he went straight into his cot bed (did look so tiny though!). Don't worry if it means putting the cot bed up in your room now and then taking it down again to move in a couple of months' time.

FWIW, DS1 was in our room until 12 weeks, and DS2 went into his own room at 3 weeks - but then DH used to go to bed in the bed in there, and when DS woke for a feed, DH would come and get me from our room and we'd swap. It did mean DH and I didn't sleep in the same bed for a few weeks, and grunted at eachother on the landing in the middle of the night, but we decided it was better for both of us to get at least a few hours' decent sleep a night... Both DSs were in their own rooms on their own once they slept through from late feed.

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julezboo · 09/04/2007 20:48

thanks all

mofm - we do usually swaddle him, not totally sure when to give this up though, Im guessing now it too early?? My first was a preemie so only tiny for months so swaddling worked for months with him, think the size the baby is now my first was the same size at 9 months lol!

I did have alot of sleep issues with my first, not to sure if this was connected to swaddling, co sleeping or what. What age do we give up swaddling and also in the warm wether is it a good idea to keep swaddling. We only use a cotton sheet but he gets to hot and sweaty! Im frightened of him overheating.

Gosh i forgot how much you actually worry about with a baby!

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FrayedKnot · 09/04/2007 20:51

Ds went into his cot at 8 weeks, for the same reason, he kept getting his arms stuck in his crib sides. he was also really noisy and I couldn;t sleep until he had really settled after night feeds which took ages.

His cot was in the room next to me - I slept with both doors open and with a monitor (unecessary really as I could still hear him - just not as loudly).

I wouldn;t have done it if the rooms had not been adjacent.

I have to say though we ended up co-sleeping usually after about 3am most nights, because after the 2nd or so night feed I could never be bothered to put him back in his cot.

clairemow · 09/04/2007 20:53

julez, I think we swaddled DS2 until he went into his sleeping bag when he got to 10 lbs (can't remember how many weeks though!). DS1 wouldn't be swaddled at all, hated it (was breech with his legs behind his ears though when he was born, so not keen on his legs being flattened down!!). Both mine have been happier once they were in sleeping bags and in their cots with a bit more room. We found the moses basket was restricting once they were more than about 6 weeks old.

LowFatMilkshake · 09/04/2007 21:00

DS was due to go in his room at 8 weeks but after a scare with his health (not related to sleep) I kept him with me for another week.

But we put him in his room at 9 weeks and we all slept better. For peace of mind we got a heart beat monitor so I can seen with a flashing light on the unit next to my bed that he is breathing etc.

pinkspottywellies · 09/04/2007 21:05

wrt cot bumpers, from what I understand the danger is that if they move around in thier cot the baby can end up with it's head on the bumper which can stop them losing heat from thier head and this can lead to overheating.

I know quite a few people who have put thier baby in it's own room from v early on but we've only just moved dd into her cot at 5 months.

coleyboy · 09/04/2007 21:08

ds went into own room and his cotbed at 4 weeks. We all slept much better.

ds is 8m and is still swaddled for his daytime naps, however has been in a grobag at night since 2 weeks old.

I think I found it reassuring that his room is next to ours.

Cot bumpers - they aren't recommended until they are older.

MerlinsBeard · 09/04/2007 21:17

ignore what i said about bumpers

cleaninglady · 09/04/2007 22:03

aaww 8 weeks does seem quite little ? the 6 month guideline is there for a reason although each child is different - one thing i read recently is that the baby "tunes in" to the parents breathing which helps it regulate their own breathing - something about babies can "forget" to breath ? hence the grunt and snuffling a lot of newborns do! my dd was 9 months! and had co-slept (bad sleeper to this day and is 5 1/2)

ds was 4 months and a brilliant sleeper every night since (now 2 and half) didnt co-sleep that time

skibump · 09/04/2007 22:15

ds slept in a cot in his own room from day one - we did have a monitor though. Why is co-sleeping recomended for 6 months, does anyone know?

cleaninglady · 09/04/2007 22:20

the co-sleeping is partially recommended because the baby will "copy" the parents breathing as new borns can forget to breath sometimes - see my other post below! ive read this recently as was interested myself having been told to do it but not really knowing why! not sure if thats the only reason ....

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 09/04/2007 22:24

Mine all went at 6 weeks. Seemed the usualt at the time though I'm a Very Old Person.

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