Just in case you miss it .. look what we're being 'reported to MNHQ' for ..

[Twiglett]

here

well when I say we I mean custy and me too because I agreed with her

'scuse me whilst I snigger

(and yes I fully appreciate this is an immature response .. but feck it)

custy i think a 'what the jiggins' would be more sensible from now on

you may offend with a wtf

wtj for you from now on

she could have just said 'that is not possible' and explained.

Yes it is annoying when people keep coming back with solutions that are impossible for you, but they are offering you help and if you haven't put all the details down then its you're own fault.

IMHO she was rude. It costs nothing to say 'sorry, should have explained I can't do that'.

TBH I'd be royally pissed off if I had been reported for offering advice to someone (however it had been worded). It would put me off offering it.

now now custy don't be daft. .

and of course "custy is right" is extremely offensive isn't it.

how ever will she cope when she comes face-to-face with cod.

am pmsl here. barking.

OK, I'm going to brace myself for some full-on flack, but here goes.

I post regularly on an IVF website, as that's how my DS was conceived. The people on there are lovely - we're all vulnerable people who have been to hell and back to get our children, so we're pretty sensitive. So when I discovered MN I was quite shocked to read the harshness of some people's posts. People can be very abrupt, critical of other's parenting, stern in their condemnation of ideas and so on. Sometimes, if you're not a regular, it can feel like a scary club of tough Mums, just waiting to shoot you down.

That said, there are some wonderful people here, who give very good advice in a kind sensitive way.

But we're not all tough cookies who can say to complete strangers "oi don't call me daft I'm having a bad day". Also, it doesn't take a genius to see when someone is having a bad day, and tread a bit more carefully.

Is there a smiley for "lights blue touch paper and retires"?!!

Where's the fishy one?

She was called "daft" Shame on you

Good god, there's far more offensive things to be called than "daft"...

RachelG re "So when I discovered MN I was quite shocked to read the harshness of some people's posts. People can be very abrupt, critical of other's parenting, stern in their condemnation of ideas and so on. Sometimes, if you're not a regular, it can feel like a scary club of tough Mums, just waiting to shoot you down."

That may well be true. But I really don't think calling someone "daft" falls in that category, do you?

don't see what's offensive in that post Rachel

but MN isn't a touchy feely place thank the lord .. it is a site for parents by parents and has a personality of its own which is direct and to the point in general

IMHO people should get over being offended at being called daft when they're a teenager .. it is such a weak and silly word

Thank you Fio2 .. I was begininng to wonder whether my perception of myself on here is totally flawed

Naughty corner for you two!

I didn't read it as Custy saying the OP personally was "daft" - just a generalised saying - "you're "daft" if you don't eat your cake 'cos it's lovely".

Think it's rude to ask for advice then take umbrage 'cos you don't like the advice given.

rachel i used to use a warm and fluffy site for pregnancy loss - i needed somewhere warm and fluffy then

you can get warm and fluffy in certain nooks and crannies of mn, if that's what you're after

you must let us know what mnhq has to say to you about your verbal abuse.

Rachel: to be fair, that's why people should always LURK before posting on a message board to find out the flavour BEFORE you get involved.

If you can't cope with robustness, you don't post on a robust message board - there are plenty of highly moderated lets-all-speak-with-sweetness-and-light forums out there.

People shouldn't expect to come in to an established forum and expect them to modify their atmosphere just to take into account more delicate sensibilities.

I use daft occasionally on my DS. Alongside naughty. But he has never climbed on the kitchen worktops.

i agree with tutter, rachel.

and am nevertheless pmsl at twig and custy being sent to detention...

MN can be extremely warm and fluffy when needed. The rest of the time, it's just plain honest, which is why we all value it so much!

but rachelG - I don;t think it was obvious that she was having a stressful time from her post and of course an IVF site is going to be more sensitive, no one has the energy or the desire to be anything else (and yes I've had IVF - three times all failed, I know all about stressful and sensitive).

Mostly in my experience of MN, people are quite kind if it is obvious someone is having a hard time but it was not obvious in this case. And it is way over the top to report a post for being called "daft" however sensitive you're feeling.

I wonder what your punishment will be .

Thats me cheese sarnie all over the laptop.

ROFL!

Classic

Oh the Fish is going to be gutted she missed this one....

Oh yes. This'll defnitely make the weekly round up, me thinks!

(i think MN HQ must agree with the majority...of how 'daft' this was to be reported...as the thread's still alive and kicking...they'd have shot it dead otherwise!)

I've still got childlocks on some cupboards...my youngest is 7!!!!!!

we have no kitchen door...are open plan...cannot risk accidents...so locked cupboards.

one of the Big Girls threatened to shoot me the one and only time I went on BMC, I over stepped the line, was out of order, I was throwing my weight around, you're a big man but you're out of shape - for me it's a full time job, Shut- it NAHHHHH!

I got told, and I knew my place.

So yes, I agree, it is best to lurk and get the tone of a place and salient posters before getting on one's high horse

Well, I think you're all daft.

So there!

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