worried about my son :'(

[PumpkinPie2016]

I have one little bit who is 3 years 5 months.

He is mostly a loving, happy not - loves giving cuddles/kisses. He he excellent speech, knows all his letter sounds, counts really well, enjoys jigsaws and imaginary play.

Overall, he's a bright little boy who he lots of friends and plays well with other children we are or alone.

He has attended the same nursery since he was 8 months old and had always been happy there - runs straight in with no issues.

For the last few months, nursery have been saying that he doesn't always listen/join in/do as asked and will often have tantrums of he can't do what he wants - these involve screaming/hitting/throwing toys. Obviously, it's not good that he does this and I don't like to think of him hitting staff/throwing stuff. At home, we have an odd tantrum but nothing like they describe and certainly not each day.

Whenever I arrive to collect him he seems happy/often joining in with story time or playing outside with his friends. He talks happily about who he plays with/what he has done.

I have been asked to go in and discuss his behaviour - I went once before but things had improved a lot.

I feel terrible because I don't know what to suggest and they are making me feel awful - like he's the only child to have ever had these issues.

I spoke to health visitor last time and she was lovely but thought it was no more than a toddler pushing boundaries/frustration.

I can't get a GP appointment as you wait weeks for them and things then change.

I just don't know what to do - does anyone have similar experience?

My ds is the same age and it's very young to be expected to 'conform' By that I just mean that if my ds was playing with a trike at playgroup and then asked to stop and join in with singing, he wouldn't want to and I wouldn't make him. But then I'm lucky enough to not have to work and although my ds goes to nursery a couple of mornings a week we also go to less structured groups and play at home a lot. How often does your lo go to nursery?

Hi,

Thanks for your reply. He goes everyday as I work full time (no choice)

I think it's a mixture of like you say, him being very young to conform and struggling to sit for longer periods/loses interest easily.

Hmm, you're probably reluctant to change it as he's been there so long and will presumably be going to school next year. Do you have any other childcare options? Maybe nursery in the mornings and a childminder for the afternoons? I'm sure he'll be fine either way though!

Just sounds like the demands of nursery are making him tired. Try not to worry