Highly Able Children

[saisanne1]

Would like to hear from parents of highly children

Honestly wish I never joined mumsnet, asked for abit advice and people try and shoot you down

How does a nursery do reading classes? Is the Scottish EY system really different to here?

They take him out his class and read a reading book with him 2 times a week one on one, as he clearly needs the stimulation

I don't put any pressure on him, it's his thirst for learning that craves it

Honestly wish I never joined mumsnet, asked for abit advice and people try and shoot you down. Start at the beginning and read the thread through. Take note of what you have said, and in particular when you have said it, because most add d info has come in the form of a defence to a comment by someone else.

Then you will realise no me is trying to shoot you down, you are in fa t the one in possession of the gun.

*no one is trying to...

Hardly it's constant and mostly from you, so go away as I said before

No it's not constant and mostly from me. You are as blinded to the way this thread has gone as you are to the fact that your son needs to be a 4 year old first and foremost. Many people have offered advice which you have just ignored and rubbished. You called us all crazy a while back because people dared to question things that were not making much sense when put together with other information.

I have every right to post on this thread, you start a thread but you don't get to call who can comment on it. More so when you are just trying to silence anyone who doesn't jump when you ask.

Saisanne, if you can bang up the WISC report outcomes, including the scores from the sub categories, people might be able to spot some areas that could help you.

Your child sounds very similar to lots of other bright children from an academic point of view (one of mine taught herself to read at 2, but was assessed as 12-15 in yr r, plus a different kid has very similar issues with distracting litt and have undergone thorough assessment for both ASD and ADD. There is no way that an assessment would dx ADD at this age - they wouldn't bother until 6 or 7 at least, if it could be caused by other things)
I'm not sure why you are being defensive - we have tons of parents of extremely able kids on mn - but you are not doing yourself any favours by talking in absolutes just because you have googled hoagies. All kids are different, and there is absolutely no 'gifted kids will struggle in x'. Some do, some don't. But behaviour-wise, it is even more important that gifted kids learn they are not special very early on - to a large extent some perceive injustice at a higher rate and can get into trouble in school by attempting to be right all the time (even when it is not appropriate for them to do so) and there can be issues with attention or disruption if a child is bored. But they are by no means the norm. Just one of the very many things that can happen with any kid.
Some clues can be found in the WISC scores. Bang them up, and we'll have a look. (Does he have any sub scores which have been highlighted as contextual weaknesses? is they are higher than average but in terms of his own scores, are lower?)

My son is getting to be a normal 4yo and if he didn't need the help he's getting, why wouldn't they be offering it to him

Did they just use the preschool WISC and allow him to top out? Or did they use the school version? It can be tricky with four year olds to get an accurate assessment of the EP just sticks to the age appropriate test...

What Leggit said. Let your wee boy be four, help him develop skills to make friends and behave in a socially and educationally acceptable fashion and stop being fixated on his academic abilities. He's four, fgs. I was walking and talking by nine months, reading voraciously by four and well as teaching myself to write. I wasn't exceptionally able; I was a pfb to older parents who loved me to bits,took an interest in me and spent lots of time with me, as did my grandparents. I was, and still am, incredibly uncoordinated and ungifted in all things mathematical. At four, I had a nice wee circle of friends, was invited to birthday parties and people's houses etc. and that's what I remember about my childhood. Not how early I could read and write. Let him live a little and RELAX. Don't smother him or become a pain with his nursery or school - you need them onside.

All I asked is if anyone is going through emotional issues which I know a lot of gifted kids have, I don't let me son away with behaving badly because he's gifted. I'm dealing with these issues through groups etc, but when people say I'm lying about this and that, that's when I get angry. As I've said before no reason to lie.

Op, your son might be able to read fluently. But in the nicest way, reading through this thread, it doesn't seem as if you can!!

You've ignored some really sound advice in favour of banging the drum that you've already decided on. He's your child and you'll have to do whatever you consider is best. But listening, really listening, to some of the wise words on here might help you with that!

My son has lots of friends and is extreamly popular, yes a lot of kids do read by 4, but do they show all the other traits of a gifted child, emotional etc etc, no so that's probably why they are classed as bright and not gifted

I've not ignored advice, I've been trying to reply to the negative comments to get my side across

But saisanne, they aren't meant to be negative comments. People are trying to help you - you're taking it negatively and being really defensive. That's easy to see from the outside!

I think re-read the comments again in the morning, in the spirit they were intended, and you might find it more helpful.

Yup - I was emotional and super sensitive. Lots of resilience building from my sensible Mum and dad helped that. Fine now.

My son has all these and that's what separates bright kids who can read at 4 and gifted kids who can also read a 4

That was all me at four - apart from the mathematical stuff - I rote learned my times tables.

Yes and I know with all the help from me and nursery he will over come all the emotional and sensitive stuff

I'm not really sure what your point is any more tbh. You've had loads of good advice?

Well there is a lot of negative which gets people backs up, it's really not nice

But thank you to all the positive comments, all your advice has been taken on board