Go on, humour me, I need to ask your opinion about ds and his fey ways

[Pruni]

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PMSL at him being a sandwich

I think, you can do exercises to make him engage with people more, but, I wouldnt expect miracle cures. Although DP is adamant that Omega 3 fish oils will help our DD......

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He's just so wonderfully lovely though. I think it will just come with time, as his peers get a bit older and more interesting to him. There's a boy in dd's class who's super bright (like amazingly) and doesn't enter into other children's worlds (this is in his mother's words) but all the children in the class adore him and play with him very happily on his terms. Ds was a bit like that too, except without the super brightness

I dunno Pruni. DD is quite alot like this and I'm not so sure how to handle it either. Pre-School say how quiet she is, although she gets on with things fine whilst there.

She's a totally different character at home. They wouldnt recognise her I am sure of it.

However, I think DD's hearing problems may be partially connected to some of the behaviours she has in 'public' settings.

i dont think trying to make him "change" will achieve anything, except to perhaps give him the lifelong impression that you dont like him as he is maybe??? Allowing him to be as he is/who he is, but trying to engage him more is the best advice I can come up with.

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The thing is that he's really very interactive with older children, isn't he? That's what I meant by them having to get old enough for him to be interested. His speech is so advanced that it may well be that other 3 year olds just don't generally have much to say that interests him, but once they're all 5 or 6 it will be fine.

Maybe, it would be better to take the approach that celebrates his difference from other children, so that he feels secure and confident in himself and his ways, even if he does seem like "the odd one out" in social scenarios.

I have only recently realised (yes, its taken me a long time), that at least 20% of the population are considered 'shy'/'sensitive'. Thats ALOT of people who are like me. And there was me thinking I was on my own......

Now I know Im not...for every confident person, there's another person like me.

Pruni, mine is about the same age and your description could well fit mine! Aren't they being a bit picky do you think? Boys are the best socially anyway. ds will quite happily play by himself, he has no need to interact. There is one little boy he does get on well with, he's older than ds so I think it's adoration mostly. But on days when this other little boy is not at nursery, ds will play by himself, he has no other little friends that he plays with. Tbh I thought this was all very normal. I know kids go through stages and right now I thought it was the stage where they can happily play next to other children but not necessarily WITH them iykwim.

I think your nursery sounds a bit weird!

Sorry, that should read that boys aren't the best socially.

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