What should I do about this incident in Reception class?

[kid]

My DD is in reception and I work in the school (but not in her class). On Friday, the teacher taking assembly noticed a boy in reception was sitting right at the front with his hand inside another girls knickers. Thank God it wasn't my dd but could so easily have been her sitting next to him. Of course I'm not sure what she would have done about it but I have spoken to her about it since and I am confident that she would not let this happen and would tell an adult straight away. But my concern is that the school have done nothing about the boy and girl involved in this incident. The parents haven't even been informed. I am now so paranoid about my dd going anywhere near this boy. I do feel sorry for him as I know for a fact that his older brother was sexually abused when he was younger so I am lead to believe he may have been abused too. I need to speak to the teacher to find out that my dd will be perfectly safe and happy within the classroom and that she is never in the position of that poor little girl.

Hi Kid

Ds1's class teacher refused to admit that anything had happened because she was supposed to be watching them. I think she felt that it was bad on her part that she didn't see what was happening to my ds. But I firstly took it to the deputy head who gave me such a crass comment about how some phycologist would be pleased with this behaviour.

I then went to the head master and he was horrified and is looking into it thouroughly. I intend to schedule another meeting with him this week to see what has been done.

If you're not happy with the teachers responce then forget the deputy head and go straight to the head master. This is your child and I know how I felt when mine had been violated by another child. If you did nothing and it happened to your dd with or without her consent then you wouldn't forgive yourself.

I'm thinking of you and I wish I'd seen this sooner.

The deputy approached me tonight at hometime and told me that they are going to record the incident but don't want to make it a big issue to the children. I was at pleased that at least there would bea record of it should anything else happen. When I got home, the head teacher phoned me, I told her what the deputy had said and she has told me that she is not happy to leave it at that. She if going to refer it to SS. She wanted to know what exactly the boys mum had told me so I told her. I do want it investigated but I don't want the mum to know I had anything to do with it. But at least if this boy is at risk, he can now be protected. I was really pleased with the heads response.