Baby screams when held by others

[PopcornFiend]

DD2 is 4.5 months old. In the last couple of days she has been held by 2 elderly neighbour friends, both of whom she has seen occasionally before so not total strangers. After less than a minute of being held on their laps, she SCREAMED bloody murder and only calmed down when I took her back.

I'm really worried as I go back to work in 5 weeks and she will be going to a childminder, who we are having a few settling in sessions with soon, but what if she screams with her too? Also we are going out for the first time just DH and I in a few weeks, and one of the elderly neighbours is going to babysit - I'm just so worried DD will be distressed.

Any advice?

It's really tough, dd was the same.

We had to wait untill dd was in bed so we could go out. She wouldn't even go to mil,FIL ect..

I ended up giving work up because dd was so stressed out and she could rage/cry for hours if I left her at nursary

Sorry no advice but completly understand how you feel.