Child Watching Porn

[EmilyNoo1234]

My 11 year old daughter has been caught on numerous occasions looking at hard core porn. I have had numerous discussions with her, banned her from her devices, removed her from the Internet etc etc. However her need seems so great she take other people devices and sneaks them to her room. We have now had to change all passwords on the router and have even had to put a passcode on the television as we caught her watching adult channels on the TV!

When she has sneaked devices, she can be up most of the night and the next day she is unbearable! Argumentative, aggressive, unapproachable etc.

I don't want to restrict her to having nothing but I truly dont know what to do! Can anyone offer me any advice?

You can put pins etc on phones and iPads

If I accessed porn on my work phone I'd be found out so how can she? Also how do you know.

Just lock them up.

Also what is her relationship like with her elder brother?

I would have an open conversation with her, no accusations just let her talk about this. See what she knows about sex etc, who she has learnt things from etc.

On a slightly separate point- if she's accessing porn via your partner's business phone, he could get into a lot of trouble with his employer. They may well be logging sites visited. At the very least it's likely to be a breach of his employer's IT security policy. At my workplace it would be final warning territory.

Well then put PIN numbers or fingerprint unlock on all your phones and iPads.

For someone who claims to be computer savvy - or however you phrased it - you really didn't think of doing that?

It really is a bit baffling that you have had this problem a while but hadn't thought to use a pin on your devices.

I know that's not the only issue but it's a pretty basic starting point.

It's a normal (the very low side of normal however) age to be interested in sex and what sex is. However, her need to watch porn is very worrying. It's one thing to be interested and another to be so hellbent on watching porn.

You need to go back to the doctors and explain that, though you understand she is at an age to be curious, she is going to extreme lengths to watch this material. I would demand she be referred to a counsellor as you are worried there is a troubling motive beneath all of this. It is not necessarily a symptom of abuse but can be and for that reason, I think you need to seriously push this. Good luck OP

Have you ever talked to her about why the porn she watches is damaging? I know that the most important thing is to stop her from accessing the porn, but if she understood why it was bad, she may be able to accept you stopping her from watching it, and so not try to access it on other devices

You should read this book - good for mother to read and the kids... I don't know anything about porn but I am concerned that my teens will see it - very concerned given how it is early available on the internet. It degrades women and will undoubtedly effect their relationships if they are watching it too young. Please review after reading to encourage others to open this topic up with their children. Here is the link to the book on Amazon - hard to find such books out there: ]]

i think its perfectly normal for kids to watch porn in fact when my eldest son first asked what porn was i watched a few porn videos with him to show him that its completely normal for people to watch it and he shouldnt be ashamed to watch it