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What age did you put your LO's in their own room and how did it go???

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 09:57

I really am dreading my DD going into her own room (DD is 11 weeks) but in my heart I know we will both get a better nights sleep without disturbing each other. On the other hand I want her near me, and I'm worried how she will take to being on her own in her room (she does take naps in her cot) Sooooo many conflicting thoughts/emotions so would love to hear your stories and if you had any worries before hand?
TIA

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SnowyMeadow · 06/12/2006 19:43

We put ds in his own room at 2weeks of age. Will definately be doing it again when no 2 arrives in May.

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Jam77 · 06/12/2006 19:57

twickers - I know I'll be checking, i'll be all paranoid....first baby, is it obvious tell you what I will miss - reaching out when DD wakes at 6 and putting a dummy in and she drops off till 7 lol
It's great the way we all have diverse ages when we have done it - I just like the reassurance MNetters give me! thanks x

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achristmassyboo · 06/12/2006 19:58

DS is still co sleeping with us at 9 months, he hates sleeping alone. I think we will face putting him in his own room when we have to, as we know there will be crying. He does wake me up for feeds, but is bf so its much easier him being in with us. I envy people who's babies sleep in cots/moses baskets - he just doesn't have any of it and never has!Mind you i think he'd still be in our room in a cot as we would miss him!

MerryBiglipsmas · 06/12/2006 20:00

8 months old and she slept like a log!! .... still do at 26m

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Jam77 · 06/12/2006 20:16

boo - to be honest that is one reason I never co slept coz I would find it hard to stop, so moses basket it was - but a different room is like the first link breaking if you know what I mean..blimey I'm soppy tonight, must be due on LOL!
Merry - good to hear!!!!

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worcestercaroline · 06/12/2006 20:21

U can buy the alarms at T K MAxx at the moment, don't know if u have 1 near u. I put dd in moses basket in her cot and then put her in cot, dont think she even noticed she was not in her basket. I too hold my hands up and own up to having monitor on as loud as it will go so I can hear her breathing and when she started sleeping through the night I had to keep creeping into her room to make sure she was ok-but it put my mind at rest and I could then sleep.

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Jam77 · 06/12/2006 20:38

Thanks Caroline - was thinking about the alarms...I was the same when I first started putting DD to bed upstairs on her own...kept creeping up or glueing my ear to the monitor downstairs!!! and now I put her to bed, shut the door and that's it till her dream feed so I know I'll get used to it, I'm more worried to be honest that it will disrupt her going down well (took me weeks of repetative reassurance to get her going down ok) and will have have a period of having to settle her again?????

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gingermonkey · 06/12/2006 20:54

My youngest went into his room at 3months (in carry cot, in cot) and we all slept much better from that point on. He moved into his cot properly when he was 6mths and had a sleeping bag so he couldn't wriggle about too much. I have the monitor on quietly so I don't hear him unless he really cries! Alarms are good in theory, but they can go off if baby moves about and isn't near the sensor. You can end up being over paranoid and depriving yourself of sleep. I did this with the eldest and ended up with her sleeping with us for far too long. She only slept properly when she started school at 3 1/2, I think years of me sneaking in to make sure she was ok and poking her all night had a detrimental effect!

LadyOfThePoinsettias · 06/12/2006 20:57

lol
we have both ds' in our room - ds1 is 16months and ds2 is 2months.
oh and 2 dog baskets- both laydees 2years old.

works for us! as long as you all get some kip, sleep wherever!

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Jam77 · 06/12/2006 21:09

here here lady! Thanks GM wanted to do the whole moses basket in cot thing but the reason DD is moving is because at 12 weeks she no longer fits in her moses basket (she does like her food)

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notsogummyanymohohoho · 06/12/2006 21:11

we were going to put our lo in his own room at six months but he caught a cold so it was put back until he was 7 months, even then i felt guilty and now he's over a year old and when dh is away i wish we could sleep in the same room again. Neither of us would get any sleep i think though. It's definitely got to be when it feels right for you and not when every one else thinks is the right time.

gingermonkey · 06/12/2006 21:16

At the end of the day, once you have babies you forget what sleep used to be like...lying in til the middle of the afternoon, eating toast and reading the papers in bed, having a bit of nookie, going back to sleep and then getting up in time to nip out for a bite to eat and a drink at the pub. A lie in is 7.30, 8am at an absolute push! Nowadays when we get a night off we plan to have an early night and a lie in instead of the pub. I have a wardrobe full of amazing dresses that will passed on to dd if they don't get eaten by the moths first! There's nothing nicer tho than rolling over and seeing your kids snuggled up in bed with you, but dh, dd and ds all snore so I can't sleep with all 3!

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Jam77 · 06/12/2006 21:25

Blimey GM you brought back some memories there....a few drinks, some decent nookie and a long lie in...then up to a cooked breakfast and sunday papers.....and I make you right notso, it has to feel right

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gingermonkey · 06/12/2006 21:33

ikwym. Just do it when you feel the time is right, mil, sil, dh, that bloody interfering hv will all tell you that they should be doing this or doing that by now but kids are kids and they do what they like, when they like. Ds was an angel sleeper until he turned 1, now he wakes up at 5 every morning for a bottle and a cuddle (I quite like it really, but I am getting knackered and wish for just 1 more hour!). It's my bedtime now, so nite nite!!!!

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Jam77 · 06/12/2006 21:43

nite GM!

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gingermonkey · 08/12/2006 22:08

Hi Jam, have you tried it yet???

achristmasshoop · 08/12/2006 22:26

Mine was around 18 months, but every time he gets a cold (he's had around 3 since then but they seem to last a while) I put him back in bed with us and then I have to start all over again!

binkacat · 08/12/2006 22:32

4 days old and it went fine

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Jam77 · 08/12/2006 22:55

Hi GM! funnily enough tonight is the second night.....so far so good (but pleassseee keep fingers crossed ) It was hard last night, like you said I didn't get an alarm (would only listen out for it as well as the monitor)I missed knowing she was next to me but we did all sleep very well it has to be said. Just hope DD stays liking it

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gingermonkey · 09/12/2006 16:39

That's good news! I'll keep fingers crossed for you. Ds is teething at the mo, and has a cough and cold and is very very grumpy. He is waking up at all sorts of times and not eating much, poor little man! You have all this to look forward to!!!! Ha ha! Good luck for tonight!

juicychops · 09/12/2006 16:43

ds went into his own room after about 4 weeks. He started sleeping through after about 10 weeks. Right decision for all of us

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Jam77 · 11/12/2006 10:47

Am having similar problems GM and DD is only 3 months!!!!! She is teething and so cranky I wondered if someone had come and swapped babies!!!! She has lost her appetite and putting her to bed at the moment is a nightmare!!! I had 4 teeth by 4 months but DD's don't show any signs of cutting through...any idea how long she may be feeling so uncomfortable for? I guess I might as well ask how long is a piece of string! lol

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gingermonkey · 11/12/2006 12:44

Poor little mite. Ds was teething for the first couple for ages. He got used to it after a couple of weeks and only had the odd day where he was in pain. I think it's the pointy ones he is getting now - but he won't let me near his mouth without biting - and he's like a little rat, can draw blood and everything! Had a really bad night last night, he was up at 1am then every hour after. He's doped up on calpol, nurofen, anbusol and teething granules but short of giving a sedative he won't sleep. I'm so tired and cranky myself I think tonight the phenergen is coming out (do you know about that magic stuff? It's a mother's secret!). I just need 5 hours of sleep, that'll do me! Just 5 hours, is it too much to ask???!!

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Jam77 · 11/12/2006 12:59

Not heard of phenergen??? is it good? Poor you feeling sleep deprived, me too at the moment, actually have just posted a new thread about feeling low...it's hard isn't it I agree that some sleep would make me feel better

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gingermonkey · 11/12/2006 13:05

Phenergen is an anti hist for older kids that everyone I know uses on the plane to make the lo sleep! My old hv told me to get it when dd was little (18mths). Haven't mentioned it to this hv, but she's a friend of a friend and I am sure she uses it for hers. It's for over 2s but when I buy it I tell them it's for the 7 year old who gets car sick, otherwise they won't sell it. It's wrong, I know, but it works (just can't use it often!!!) Sleep deprivation is so hard, I am a bit teary at the minute coz of it!