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What age did you put your LO's in their own room and how did it go???

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 09:57

I really am dreading my DD going into her own room (DD is 11 weeks) but in my heart I know we will both get a better nights sleep without disturbing each other. On the other hand I want her near me, and I'm worried how she will take to being on her own in her room (she does take naps in her cot) Sooooo many conflicting thoughts/emotions so would love to hear your stories and if you had any worries before hand?
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fairyjay · 30/11/2006 10:08

Mine went in their own room from the night we returned home from hospital.

But then I am a horrible mum

sunnysideup · 30/11/2006 10:10

well it wasn't wrong for us! Ds was in his own room from very young as our bedroom was seriously tiny, yes even too tiny to have a moses basket beside or at the end of the bed and I didn't want ds in our bed as DH is 6'4 and 18 stone! - I did have the monitor turned up to max so that I could hear his every breath though! I don't know whether it's a direct result of being in his own room but he was a brilliant sleeper as a baby and this carried right on...he only has woken at night if ill, basically.

Current advice is keeping them with you till six months so obviously take that into consideration; if you have risk factors such as smoking in the house or whatever then you'd need to seriously consider that this advice is to prevent cot death too....however you know yourself and your baby best.....I have to say, you have done half the time already, do you think you could hold out for a few more weeks? It's not long in the great scheme of things.

However, as I say, if you feel it will be better for you all to move her then do it and don't worry. You know what risk factors are present in your house if any, and you know your baby. Don't agonise, if you think it's ok, it's ok.

katyjo · 30/11/2006 10:14

I am also a horrible mother, ds went in his own room at about 2 weeks old. We both slept much better, I had always fed and changed him in his room and I think he felt more comfortable in there, it was also warmer and had a night light.
Do trust your instincts as a mother, but don't let people tell you what you should do or make you feel guilty, she is your baby and you know best.
XX
p.s. of course I worried, but I also worry about almost every decision I make on a daily basis, all part of being a mum I'm afraid!!

SNOWMANdymoo · 30/11/2006 10:17

ds was 6 weeks

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 10:18

Thanks all - we are non smokers so risk there - To be honest I don't mind being disturbed - but when we disturb her it's harder...the thing is she is a big baby 14lb 5oz and will soon be too big for her moses basket....her cot won't fit in our room unless we take it apart and reassemble (not really an option as the 5 hrs it took to put it up could be grounds for a divorce DH was so stressed, it was a tricky bugger to put together)so do I buy a travel cot for a few weeks or put her in her room???? was a bit worried getting her used to travel cot and then cot could be a mare as it took a lot to get her going down for the evening happily (I don't do crying out) I'm so confused!!!

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 10:20

katyjo - I'm with there!!!! and thanks for comment re no guilt - it is hard when you worry all the time x

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Nemoinapeartree · 30/11/2006 10:20

Ds was about 13wks but he took ages to settle of a night and is a bad sleeper. He also snored a lot when he was a baby which meant I didnt get any sleep. However his bedroom was the room next door so he was only about an extra 2ft away and could hear every noise.
DD was around 5mths old when we moved her and will probably wait until the same for DB when it arrives as their room I cant hear as much noise from it.

sunnysideup · 30/11/2006 10:21

I would say don't be confused; if she's too big to go in a moses basket then put her in her cot in her room!

She already has her naps in there so is used to it. No worries!

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WhenSantaWentQuietlyMad · 30/11/2006 10:22

Different people have different feelings about it. Go with your instincts is my advice.

DD1 only moved into her own room when she was 15 mths, and dd2 (9mths) is still in ours.

I miss them when they go, but you do sleep better.

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 10:23

Thanks sunny, and everyone - off to feed my pudding DD now back soon so please keep posting x

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Enid · 30/11/2006 10:24

dd1 was about 8 weeks
dd2 was around 5 weeks
dd3 is STILL in my room at 7 months

Plibble · 30/11/2006 10:34

At about 4 months. She was fine and had already taken naps in her room.
I wish I had moved her earlier (I had wanted to at 3 weeks but DH wasn't happy with that). If you want to move her and if she is happy to nap in her cot, why don't you give it a go? You can always change back if it doesn't go well.
I thought about the cot death issue, but after speaking to a couple of doctors who could not enlighten me as to why it is better to have the baby sleeping in your room (as you wouldn't hear it if they died and, if there was anything to hear, then you would be able to hear it over a monitor) I decided to go ahead. I did use an apnoea alarm to start with. Ours was very good and there were no false alarms, so helped with my peace of mind.

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 10:55

It's like you say plibble - I wouldn't hear breathing stopping (God Forbid) as DD can be so quiet sleeping (and at other times so loud lol) I think that in a couple of weeks when she is 3 months I will give it a go how does the apnoea alarm work?
Enid - any reason you have kept DD3 in for 7 months?

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katewilson13 · 30/11/2006 11:01

I moved DS into his own room at 4 months - we had had an open fire downstairs and the smoke got into our bedroom through a shared chimney. So it was by mistake really. But it turned out to be the best thing ever. He slept through the night from then on - we'd obviously been keeping him up. I definitely recommend a good baby monitor and blackout curtains. I did feel guilty the first time - but that soon went as he just slept like a sleepy thing! It's also allowed DH and me to relax in bed and get a bit more cuddly!

MumToAPiglet · 30/11/2006 11:01

My DD is 15 weeks and I am going through the same dilema as she is at the end of her Moses Basket and can't stay in there. However her room is 1 floor down and I worry that if there was a fire or a burgler it would get her first! Also she does not sleep through the night yet and we do not want to be up and down the stairs in the night. On the other side of the argument she is a very light sleeper and often gets disturbed when we just roll over on our creeky bed. I think we are going to try a travel cot in our room for a few weeks and then re-assess.

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 11:10

Glad it went so well Kate - At the moment if DD wakes at 6 I pop her dummy in and she goes off for another half hour or so....selfish as it is I will miss that as it won't be so easy in another room....(although she will be just accross the hall) so did your DS wake later in own room or at same time?
Mumtoapiglet - it's so hard isn't it, my friend had the same issue, in town house on top floor.If DD is still waking up I would do like you and keep her in with you. My DD has been sleeping through a couple of weeks - I hadn't realised I was getting her up and feeding her when she was just stirring before putting herself back to sleep

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dhw · 30/11/2006 11:11

ds was 2 weeks. and it felt absolutely right.

Plibble · 30/11/2006 11:12

Our apnoea alarm attaches to the baby monitor. It is a large flat thing that goes under the cot mattress. If the baby stops moving for a long enough period (not sure how long, but I seem to recall 20 seconds) then a high-pitched, very annoying alarm sounds through the monitor and the base station. It is sensitive enough to pick up the baby breathing and register that as movement.

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 11:14

Thanks Plibble - would give me peace of mind - and it didn't go off in a false alarm? (image of DD stuck to ceiling with finger nails in fright )

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Plibble · 30/11/2006 11:46

No false alarms at all. It's from Tommee Tippee and it has been fine.
DD has heard the alarm go off when I have taken her out of cot for a dream feed and forgotten to turn it off first and she didn't bat an eyelid. So it doesn't seem to bother a sleepy baby, but a nervous parent would definitely react!

LindzDelirium · 30/11/2006 11:58

DD (now 4) came home from hospital and I was breastfeeding. The first night she was in with us and woke every 2 hours for feeding. Second night I couldn't bear it and we put her in her own room, and she slept for 11 hours and has done every night since (breastfeed solely for 10 weeks, then morning and night with bottle in between for next 7 months). It worked for us but I had no qualms about putting her in her own room straight away. It depends on how you feel about it, but yes, to answer the question, DD was 2 days old. She wasn't a very cuddly baby though and hated being held close so that could have an impact.

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Jam77 · 30/11/2006 12:03

Thanks for all of your advice and help!!! very much appreciated

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