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Are all 7 yo girls this hard work?!

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manchestermummy · 02/07/2015 18:21

She's a few months off 8. Very intelligent (not just our opinion: she's very much above average across the board). But my God, the attitude! Answers back almost constantly, rude, cheeky. She's like a teenager! She's currently in her room having a think after stropping because I wouldn't let her have a cracker. I wouldn't let her have a cracker because she had finished her tea 20 minutes previously and had only eaten half of it. Had she eaten most of her tea, I would have conceded that she might still be hungry btw. She then crushed the cracker in the packet.

It's wearing me down. She's funny, kind to her friends, articulate but argh the attitude!!!!!

When will it end? Please say soon?!!?

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ShelaghTurner · 02/07/2015 18:29

My 7yo is sulking in her room having just stropped off (again) because I had the audacity to cook her a dinner and not let her have toast. We have a strop every 15 minutes here. It's great fun.

TheMasterNotMargarita · 02/07/2015 18:33

Hands or .
Sighs.
I don't know.
Mine is generally lovely these days, we had a lot of it last summer (she is a month away from 8).

But when it's bad, it's bad.

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manchestermummy · 02/07/2015 18:41

Can I have as well as a followed by ? Please?

It's all such hard work.

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isittheweekendyet · 02/07/2015 18:55

Yes! And as the mother of a 9 year old it seems to get worse before it must get better

TheMasterNotMargarita · 02/07/2015 19:00

Dreading the hormones kicking in.
Just saying.
Am comforting myself with all the embarrassment I will cause her as a teenager.

SillyBub · 02/07/2015 19:00

It's not just 7 year old girls, my DS(7) is equally as horrid. He back chats and lashes out and tells me he hates me whilst not doing a single thing he is asked to and then 2 seconds later he is sweetness and light for 10 seconds when he reverts back to devil child again. It's exhausting.

My gin bottle is going down rather quickly.

SarfEasticatedMumma · 02/07/2015 19:05

My DD7 is horrid now too - called me a horrible witch the other day - she was lovely 6 months ago. Anyone know why this is?

WhoisLucasHood · 02/07/2015 19:08

My sweet 6 yr is now a stroppy 7 yr old. Yes it's exhausting. I keep thinking it's good training for the teen yrs.

Pikkewyn · 02/07/2015 19:10

I have just spent the dat working in a class of 7 year old girls. It took everything I had not to drink wine at lunch today! It made me realise it is not my parenting that is causing it but found it is a much more hormone based issue.

twinkletoedelephant · 02/07/2015 19:10

9yr old girl my god this was not what I signed up for its constant just when I have reached the edge she suddenly has a good day and is the kind help full polite child I remember ...then she is back to hating me again :-)

Cedar03 · 02/07/2015 20:43

My 8 year old daughter is like this too. Not all the time - it goes in phases. Stroppy and rude and argumentative.

I have found success in telling her how sad it makes me when she is rude, etc.
I also try to praise the good behaviour.
And remember that she's tired, the weather is too hot, she's not sleeping enough. Which excuses it this week not all the other weeks!
When she's a teenager we're moving out to the shed!

lexyloub · 02/07/2015 20:46

It certainly isn't just girls my 8yo ds is like something off Kevin & Perry I was not prepared for such an attitude so early on. Ask ds to do something to which he replies "make me" I could throttle him some days

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manchestermummy · 02/07/2015 21:20

She informed me that she was going to run away when I said she was going to bed. I told her she needed to think carefully about what she needed. And that she might need more than a KitKat and a map to walk all the way to Asia, as was her intention.

It's good fun .

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SarfEasticatedMumma · 03/07/2015 07:41

I have heard of an oestrogen surge at their age which could be the cause? Pretty demoralizing though. The iPad is my only weapon - so am trying not to overuse it

PlayingHouse · 03/07/2015 23:15

I have a 7yo who is lovely at times and a complete stroppy horror at other times.

We got back from a friends house today where she had been lovely, running around the garden playing in the pool.

Then we came home and she turned into a monster. She got into the paddling pool fully clothed, dispite me saying no pool because the time was getting on. Then she cried because I wouldn't let her in the living room dripping wet. So she put on dry clothes and then went and sat in the pool again And then just to infuriate me I swear she ducked her head under the water to make her hair soaking wet - just as dinner was ready.

She cannot stop arguing with her 4yo sister either. She is so bossy with her.

But at school is well behaved so I don't understand it.

God help me in the 6 weeks holiday.

Layde · 04/07/2015 02:52

My eldest daughter sounds much like yours at that age. She was headstrong, stroppy and difficult, and would do things to spite herself because she always wanted the last word. She's almost 12 now, and I have to say is learning to control her emotions a lot more. She's maturing into a lovely, considerate young lady. But, yeah, she was hard work at that age.

My youngest daughter is 8, and she has a much more laid back personality. We've not had any issues (yet) of stroppiness from here, and she often backs down very quickly. However, I just know that she is going to be much harder work when she hits the teenage years because she will do anything to be liked. For now, that works - she will easily back down and apologise when told off. However, I fear the day when she is more concerned about being liked by her friends and peers... I fear she could be easily led astray in a way that my eldest is far too headstrong to ever be.

mejon · 04/07/2015 15:08

Mine is 9 in a month and is exactly the same. Coupled with such a negative attitude to everything she'd make Victor Meldrew wince, I was glad to get out of the house this morning to come to work. She used to save her most horrible behaviour for me but is now beginning to give DH is share too. I'm hoping that 4yo DD2 doesn't follow in her footsteps and that DD1's attitude and 'teenage stroppiness' is over by the time she hits her teens proper!

Gileswithachainsaw · 04/07/2015 15:15

Another one joining the support group.

Dd disappeared completely around 6 and is showing no sign if returning any time soon and she's coming up to 9.

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madwomanbackintheattic · 07/08/2015 00:24

Have you really joined to cruise the boards touting for business, pause?
Because that is really shoddy, and would put me off using your services.

LeChien · 07/08/2015 00:27

The shoddy spelling mistake is enough to put me off, and the promise of camhs trained therapists - what a shower of shit they tend to be!
Anyway, happy to keep reporting your posts.

pinksomething · 07/08/2015 00:44

Yep. Last year when DD was 7 she was often sent to the bottom step (like, every night when I asked her to lay the table) and often had screaming ab-dabs like a toddler!
The worst of it seemed to come in 6 week cycles and I wondered if it was hormonal.

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