Over react to my 3 year old's tantrum involving other children

[MusicAndWine]

I seem to react badly to my toddler's tantrums, particularly when she's complaining/tantrumming about another child saying thing like, "I don't like so and so". I find it hard to stay calm. I definitely give out a very negative vibe - and I say things like, "if you don't stop saying mean things we're going home."

I know it's not the correct approach as she's only 3, but I seem to go into some primal emergency mode when my daughter kicks off at other kids, it's kind of pathetic I know, but I just want to get out from where ever we are. I feel out of control.

What I'd like to be able to do is: Calmly listen to her screams, reassure her that whatever the issue is it will pass or can be resolved without name calling, wait until the tantrum dissipates and continue what we were doing with a smile on our faces, instead of panicking and wanting to press the ejector seat button.

Any tips on how not to be an over sensitive twit?

What you are doing sounds fine to me. Why are you not happy with it? I thought removing toddlers from the situation was a common way to deal with tantrums.

"I don't like so and so".

"Thats a shame. Would you prefer to go home?"

Not so far from what you said just a bit less emotional.

I certainly would say to my DS when younger "It's not nice to say mean things about people" but probably not in the middle of a tantrum.

I say it all the time , if they can't behave we'l go home . Nothing wrong with that at all