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Toddler hates me since I told him I'm pregnant

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Nic2U · 08/04/2015 13:44

So I'm now pregnant with my second child and my partner and I told my son (2 years 10 months) at around 14 weeks. Since then he doesn't seem to want anything to do with me and has become totally obsessed with his dad. He only wants his dad to put him to bed and won't even give me a cuddle, even saying "not you mummy". I find it terribly hurtful but we have tried to carry on as normal rather than giving in to him, but this has been going on for over a month now.

I guess this is jealousy already? I am assuming this must be to do with my pregnancy as the timing seems too much of a coincidence. We have both tried talking to him about his new baby brother or sister, read books about it with him, and really made a fuss of what a great big brother he will be and how important that makes him, carefully explaining that we both still love him just as much. But he still shuns me constantly, it breaks my heart.

Has anyone else come across this reaction even before the baby has been born?

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RachieS1986 · 08/04/2015 21:00

hi. ds1 (3 next week) says that to me all the time when his dad is there. on dads day off everything has to be done by daddy even opening his car door to let him out constant no daddy do it. hes a real daddy's boy. Please don't beat yourself up over it. it cud just be coincidence timing wise with baby. it does get to me sometimes but just try and remember hes only little and doesn't quite understand what he's saying. Congratulations on the baby.

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