DS1 and DS2 waking each other during the night!!!! Any tips please!!!

[Reece]

This has been going on for a while now and we are so deprived of sleep. Is anyone else going through this and if so how are you coping/dealing with it?

Do you ignore the fact that another young child is sleeping and may be woken and simply follow rapid return/controlled crying techniques?

I am so worried that if we keep letting DS2 into our bed and DS1 finds out (which he will) we will have a huge problem. I don't want to get into the habit of sharing our bed. I'm also concerned that DS1 will get into the habit of waking during the night himself.

Hope that makes sense. Any tips would be appreciated.

am assuming they are in the same room? how old are they?

Love the name mumofmonsters!

No they are in seperate rooms across the landing but you can hear everything in our house.

DS1 is nearly 3 and DS2 is 19mths.

ds1 just 4 does not wake ever when ds2 aged 20 months screams his head off

its not a halloween one either ,loL!

i'm not really sure what to suggest tbh. mine share a room and have got used to the noises each other makes in the night, sometimes one will wake the other esp if they are ill/shouting in their sleep. When we forst put them in the same room we tried to keep things as normal as possible.

sorry its not much help, someone more helpful will come along ina min i am sure! or have a look under sleep.

Popsycal you are so lucky!
Most times DS2 screams DS1 doesn't wake but when its been going on for a while he unfortunately does.

Mumofmonsters - do your kids settle back to sleep quite quickly when one does wake the other? I would like to put my boys in a room together but just can't see it working at the moment.

ooooooooooh nooo i am not lucky
i have a 20 month old who has only just begun to attempt anything remotely resembling sleeping through

most times yes, i have learned what kind of cries i need to go to straight away and which i can avoid for a bit. we had all sorts of trouble at first but they seem to have settled for now.

Sorry popsycal. Not so lucky. It seems that my 19mth old who always slept through is also have troubled nights. I'm hoping its just a phase and will settle down soon.

Hope you get a good night tonight

Thanks mumofmonsters. Have a good night.

I'm off to bed now to try and get a couple of hours in before it all kicks off again

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Hi Reece. I have the same problem and have kids similar ages. Mine share a room and neyther have ever been good sleepers. DS(3)won't go to sleep alone and none of the advised techniques ever worked (controled crying etc) for more than a week or two (if at all). DD (18mnths) has clubfoot and wears splints at night so also never slept well. We do this. put kids to bed at same time sit in room until just about asleep. I go to bed in my bed with dh. Ds usually gets up a couple of times (needs a wee, scared of monsters etc). One of us takes him back to his bed and gets in with him until asleep otherwise he shouts and cries and wakes dd. If dd wakes I sleep on spare bed with her as impossible to get her back in cot. Both are gradually sleeping better but I have had very few full nights sleep for over 3 yrs. So sorry no real help just understanding. J

Gosh jackie2kids it sounds like you have it worse than me! It's funny though how you think you are the only one out there experiencing these dreadful nights of sleeplessness but the more you talk about it you find that there are lots of people in the same boat.

I am just a bit fed up of hearing some people saying " kids waking up every night!, oh thats not right" " something must be wrong there", "its not normal" and those kind of comments.

I don't know why our kids are waking as often as they are. They get plenty of attention, fresh air every day and lots of love and cuddles. Maybe its an age thing....?

We get the odd night of sleep all the way through. It happened 2 nights ago and last night wasn't too bad either. I got up just twice to DS1. He wasn't really awake but was asking for Daddy/Mummy. Maybe its night terrors or something.

Will just keep plodding on I suppose unless someone else has any tips for us al

Hello there FHOTM. How are you?

Posting late tonight and still have dvd to watch! So much for an early night. I had a good nights sleep last night and a lie in though.

Yep I remember my older sis and I used to lay at the top of the stairs and peek down at mum and dad watching tv. They had open plan stairs straight into the living room They always used to shout up for us to go to bed. We would giggle, go off and return.

I can put a new perspective on things now.

Hope all get a good nights sleep tonight.

I agree. Just really really strict and scary parents!

I think its just one of those childhood stages that takes time with gentle persuasion to overcome and get bored of.

DS's have been sleeping better the last 2 ngihts. DS1 slept from 7.30pm to 8.30! DS2 slept from 7.30 to 8.15am!

They seem to be shaking their colds off at long last so maybe that has something to do with it?!