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What are you supposed to do all day with a baby???

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VoodooBanana · 25/10/2006 11:52

do you spend all day stimulating them?

or try and do housework between feeds/naps?

I take her out to see friends a few times a week, is thid enough?

I am bf so cant really leave her, I have never expressed, she wont have a dummy/bottle, I am fine and happy but is she experiencing enough of life?

Ive just started to feel I am letting her down somehow??

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RachelPross · 29/10/2006 20:59

Totally agree winky. Had a run in with my Dad yesterday, mainly due to me being tired and pmt ish but he's been interfering a bit and getting on my nerves. Finally snapped at him yesterday and just left with DD. I then explained later why and think he's OK with it. He always said he's not interfere but I guess he just couldn't help himself. Decided I need to put a bit of distance between me and my Dad. He's retired so have been spending alot of time with him while I've been off. He was meant to be looking after DD when I go back to work.
Have now realised that perhaps it'll be too hard for me to let him look after her, especially if he starts telling me what's good for DD. Even considering not going back to work for a few years as it'd break my heart to leave her in a creche.Had no idea being a Mum would be this hard!!

candj · 29/10/2006 21:12

Voodoo/Rachel - completely understand about MIL's etc - mine is a nightmare and I cannot bring myself to leave DS with her at all (fortunately DH agrees with me on this)!

Voodoo - I am in Blackburn, Lancashire - where are you? I have tried getting in touch with local mums via MN but had no luck there either - am beginning to feel VERY isolated!!

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VoodooBanana · 30/10/2006 16:00

Rachel - I cant bear the idea of creche/nursery either! Im off work till May, then only going back part time evenings so when Im not there dh looks after her.

Candj - I am near Trafford centre, there are lots of things NCT do round here. I cant believe theres so little round you!

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VoodooBanana · 30/10/2006 16:04

NCT does have some things up there Candj - - Preston? Fylde? Bury? any of those driveable?

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candj · 30/10/2006 17:19

Preston is`driveable - is the info on the website??

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VoodooBanana · 30/10/2006 20:57

yeah, google NCT and type in your postcode...just have a cruise round it, there may be one a bit closer too.

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kidsrus · 30/10/2006 21:37

voodoobanana i shredded my waste paper and scattered it over my 4mth dd she loved it the sound and the texture stimulated her, just becareful she dosen't try to eat it,we had great fun and got some lovely pictures too! lol
try your local childrens information service for groups too but most of all sit back relax and enjoy motherhood as they grow too fast and by 8 months they're on the move and don't seem like babies anymore boo hoo.

reidie · 30/10/2006 21:51

i'm glad its not jut me who stresses out about the thought of ILs looking after their DC. my MIL is looking after my DS when i go back to work in Jan. he will be 5 months old by then, but i'm still dreading it! she insists that my routine is no good and that 'he will find his own routine' and that every time he cries he 'has wind and needs to be cuddled'despite the fact she is stood holding him in a dark corner of the room where he cant see anything when he has just woken from a nap and loves to look out of the window and at lights and shadows.

Jam77 · 30/10/2006 22:34

I'm loving this thread, am reading it all thinking "uh huh, yep, so true..." If MIL gets too much do what I did shortly after DD was born (had baby blues so didn't care that I was being a bit short tempered) when MIL kept on saying I want to hold her (she was in her moses basket asleep) I said "if she wakes and starts crying you can hold her then to comfort her" she spent the next hour whispering to her DH "let's wake her so I can have a cuddle" I was fuming inside and eventually said "so let me get this right, you want to upset DD and make her cry ti make you happy????" As you can imagine It all went quiet as we stared each other out and then I took sleeping DD upstairs and had a good cry!!! At least now she has backed off a bit

LRWG · 31/10/2006 08:44

VoodooBanana - please so see your HV or GP if you feel that you may have PND. Also, may be worth talking to Home-Start. They are a great charity who offer support to families. You can attend coffee mornings, get support at home, access to CPNs and HVs. Their website is www.home-start.org.uk. I was very sceptical, but now regularly attend a coffee morning there, where the little ones are looked after and the Mums get cups of tea made for them - lovely!

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VoodooBanana · 31/10/2006 22:57

thanks LRWG, I will take a little look-see.

I have learned a lot from this thread!

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VoodooBanana · 01/11/2006 12:40

well, just got in from coffee with NCT group, met two lovely mums and had a good chat.

Next time I am going to walk in (3mile round trip) to get even fitter!

feel on top of the world now, because I also got my dental issue sorted (see my other thread, re:getting a crown!)

candj - did you find out where your group is?
are you going?

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VoodooBanana · 01/11/2006 12:42

jam77 - yes my MIL has been known to wake sleeping dd for some fuss.
Last time she did it, though, dd kicked up such a stink it will never be done again. Well done, dd!!!!!!!!!!

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VoodooBanana · 01/11/2006 12:43

kidsrus you really got me thinking about the paper thing, I want to create some unusual settings for photos to frame for people for christmas...thanks

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