17 months. what do they do? how do they play?

[girrafey]

ok, my friend and i have a 17 month old each and i also look after another boy the same age. one seems to be so far advanced and getting comments because of it and the other seems so far behind and getting comments for it and the boy i look after is in the middle and such a good boy.

now we know everyone is different and so on. but our lifestyles are the same, we meet at least 3 times a week and go to the same groups and clubs etc it just amazes us the differnce between our 2.

so could you let me know when your child could master these things.

say first word

call parents by right name

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it)

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up)

drank from beaker

drank from straw

drank from glass

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes

say ta without prompting MOST of the time

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy.

go up and down stairs on their own

count to 2 and know 1 and 2.

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!)

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x.

sorry its long. thanks in advance.

My daughter is 18 months now

say first word 12months

call parents by right name mummy: 14months, daddy: 17months

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it) 12months

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) 15months but still likes to use fingers

drank from beaker 8-9 months

drank from straw don't do straws

drank from glass don't do glasses

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat signed from 9 months

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo 16months

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes no

say ta without prompting MOST of the time no

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep no

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. from 9 months

go up and down stairs on their own 11months

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. no

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) no

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x 15 months

Ok - my dd is 19 months now

When did she:
say first word - can't remember exactly. 12 months maybe?

call parents by right name - Started reliably calling DH & me mummy & daddy in the last month

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it) - hasn't done this yet

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) - since 12 months

drank from beaker - before 12 months

drank from straw - can't

drank from glass - can do it messily

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat - 16 months or so.

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo - in the last month

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes - fat chance

say ta without prompting MOST of the time - nope

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep - did this yesterday

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. - around 16 months

go up and down stairs on their own - 12 months

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. - not yet

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) - not yet

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x. - since 15 or 16 months I think

DD was very early to do anything physical and speech has been slower than average. She has a wee pal of similar age and there is a huge difference between the two. Dd ahead physically but the friend advanced in speech. It'll all come out in the wash.

Oh dear ... will be shown up for being bad mummy ... haven't noted all firsts down but I'll probably be able to remember. (DS is 18 mths)

say first word - 18 mths ( total of 4 words to date)

call parents by right name - 18 mths (not very reliably... but has refreed to us by name)

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it) - not yet. Doesn't even say much beloved sister's or nanny's name yet

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) - not yet - can use fork and is quite motivated to eat it if it's something he loves (mango/papaya) but still mostly likes to have it spooned in ... even in preference to finger food

drank from beaker - can't remember ... before 12 mths

drank from straw - 17 mths

drank from glass - around 12 months but only if glass is held for him

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat Recognise a dog ... been growling at dogs across the road for ages (probably before 12 months) but saying a word ... only in last couple of weeks

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo - not yet

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes - not yet

say ta without prompting MOST of the time - not in vocab yet

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep - not yet

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. Yes - has signs for milk, toothbrush, not here, - since app

go up and down stairs on their own - up 14 mths ... down, not yet but possibly because we never let him try and always carry him down our main stairs. He can negotiate 2 - 3 steps walking down no problem

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. - not yet

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) - not yet

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x. - approx 12 months

Big variation between DS and DD. DS has been faster with anything physical ... crawling, walking, climbing (she didn't climb anything until she was at least 3! Never even occured to her!). She was more advanced in speaking. By 18 months she had heaps of words.

However DS understands everything - can follow instructions, make himslef understood non-verbally etc. His little friend was stringing words together by 18 months and now at 21 months is speaking in sentences, counts to 20, knows all the animals etc. He's either a child genius or there is a big range in "normal"! Only time will tell!

My Ds has just turned 17 months

say first word - 6 months - ta.

call parents by right name - 8 month. Mama and Dada. Probably used mummy and Daddy by 10 months but he was quite quite with his first words. Slowed down a bit now.

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it) - 13 months

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) - tries to on the last month but still prefers fingers

drank from beaker - 7 months

drank from straw - 11 months

drank from glass - about 12 months but only if I hold it for him

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat - 15 months

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo - not yet

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes - not yet

say ta without prompting MOST of the time - 13 months

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep - not yet

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. - 15 months

go up and down stairs on their own - 16 months

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. -16 months

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) - not yet

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x. - 15 months

My DS is 20 mths now, not sure when he started to do most of these

say first word - 16 mths

call parents by right name - 17mths?

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it) - not yet

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) - not yet

drank from beaker - 12 mths?

drank from straw - tried this, got milk everywhere

drank from glass - not yet

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat - 17mths?

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo - not yet

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes - not yet, can remove some clothing

say ta without prompting MOST of the time - not in the vocab yet

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep - no

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. - no

go up and down stairs on their own - yes

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. - not yet

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) - not yet

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x. - yes

dd2 is 17 months & is not as advanced as dd1 was at the same age.
1st word,dada at about 13 months
still doesn't always call us by right names
doesn't call friends by names
can drink from a beaker,a straw & a glass
can recognise lots of things,ie if you ask her where something is,she will fetch it,but doesn't say the words.
fed herself from 16 months
knows animals but not all the sounds-it all sounds like a mangled roar to me
can certainly take off clothes -from about 14 months,can only put hats,coats,shoes on though.
Doesn't say ta,but then again,I never say it as I don't like it.
draws scribbles but can't say what they are
has made signs for about 6 wks
has gone up & down staires alone from about 13 months
can't count or match colours but has been able to follow simple instructions from about 14 months.
HOPE THAT HELPS.

Hi
From your questions and the way you have phrased things I am assuming one of the boys can do all these things at 17 months. He sounds very advanced to me (I have done some work-related research on so called gifted kids). Now clearly a lot of people on here say why does that matter at his age/ let him be a child etc. I totally agree with the latter point but it does matter a little in that his parents or carers should keep an eye out to make sure he has toys that are appropriate for his capabilities and NOT his age so that he doesn't get bored.

Mirage - I am totally with you on the 'ta' thing.

For what it's worth my ds is 15 months and here are my recollections of when he has done things so far

first word - about 10 months

call parents by right name - about 13 months

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it)
no
feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up)
most of it but not all - has a good go
drank from beaker - about 12 months

drank from straw - tries but can't yet

drank from glass - if I hold it

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat
about 13 months
know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo
no
pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes
can take most off (especially when you don't want him to,) can't put any on without help
say ta without prompting MOST of the time
no but see above!
can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep no

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy.
no
go up and down stairs on their own
yes but crawling not walking
count to 2 and know 1 and 2.
no
match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!)
no
can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x.
yes from about 13.5 months

There is a good book called The Baby Development test by Dr Dorothy Einon which tells you more about what is normal at a particular age.

say first word - mama, dada and cat all within a week of each other at 7 months

call parents by right name - daddy is daddy, she still calls me mama most of the time but i like that!

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it) - doesn't have many friends that she sees regularly but has called her brother and the cat by name (or close enough!) since about17/18 months

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) - 1 year

drank from beaker - 3 months

drank from straw - 8/9 months

drank from glass - 9 months

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat - 7 months onwards

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo - 10? hard to remember exactly but since before ds was born so 17 months?

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes - 13/14 months

say ta without prompting MOST of the time - still doesn't! knows how to say 'tanky-oo' but rarely does

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep - not yet, but close, loves drawing

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. - 15/16 months, sleapping nappy for pooey nappy and a few others

go up and down stairs on their own - 10/11 months (with parent right behind her obviouly!)

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. - not yet

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) - rarely does it but did it first at 16 months

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x. - 12/13 months

shes 21 months next week

Say first word:11mths
call parents by right name:20mths!
Call friends by right name:not yet
feed themselves with fork:18mths but still uses fingers also
drank from beaker:18mths
drank from straw:18mths
drank from a glass:18mths
recognise and say simple object:11mths
know 10 animals and make noises:16mths
can draw a scribble and tell you what it is:16mths
make up own signs:no
go up and down stairs on own:up at 16mths,down at 18mths
count to 2 and know 1 and 2:no
match colours:no but trying to
can follow simple instructions:since about 16mths

My ds is 19 months old.

say first word - said ball, circle, bus, car, duck, monkey all today!

call parents by right name - daddy two weeks ago, not said mymmt yet!

call friends by right name ( or sound meaning it)-
not yet!

feed themselves all food with fork ( cut up) sometimes with fork, from 1 year.

drank from beaker - 9 months

drank from straw - no

drank from glass - 1 year

recognise and say simple object eg ball cat - recently

know 10 animals and sounds eg cow mooooo knows duck, snake, cow, cat

pull off all clothes and nearly put on clothes can take clothes off, not put them.

say ta without prompting MOST of the time - we don't use this word

can draw a scribble and tell you that it is meant to be something eg baaa sheep - now

make up their own signs for something eg hands turned in and down for yoghurt, smacking mouth with open palm for muzzy. - no

go up and down stairs on their own - 13/14 months

count to 2 and know 1 and 2. - no

match colours eg picks out red ball, ask for another and gets a red ball again. ( obviously doesnt know they are red!!!) - no

can follow simple instructions like go and get this, or take that to x.- 14 months.

boo64 thankyou!

ds1 - 15months:
first word- 8/9 months
call parents right name- 12m. (sometimes calls me by my proper name!!)
feed themself with fork- just getting hang now but uses it like a spoon
used beaker-10months
straw- cant do yet
glass- knows what he needs to do but cant manage it yet
recognise simple object- can recognise them but not say their names
10 animal sounds and names- not yet
clothes- no. but does co-operate help me when dressing him ie; holds his arm out straight to have coat put on. if i hold trousers out in front of him he will step into them etc.
say ta without prompting- no, must be prompted
draw scribble- can draw but cant say what it is
signs- doesnt use any signs (??)
stairs- can go up but not down
counting- cant do that
colours- dont know if he can tbh
simple instructions- can follow simple fetch/carry instructions - excellent!

ha ha Mirage - ta to you!

Now I'm worried.
ds 3.3yrs can't dress, do any letters, but good at jumping!
ds 18mnts can't walk! (but very friendly.)

Wow thank you all for your replies. its silly but we all know that all babies are diffrent, but when you see 2 the same age at 2 diffrent extremes it is weird. thanks again for all your comments.