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3 1/2 yr old eating issues -every evening is a battle- help!!

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sunshine05 · 07/10/2014 18:31

Ok so my 3 yo is doing the typical 'I don't like this' and not eating at dinner, whatever it is he fidgets, talks, does anything but eat. Up till now we've done the coaxing, getting cross, making him eat so many mouthfuls etc. It's just getting beyond a joke - dinner takes an hour or more and it's just painful. The HV suggested to me today to IGNORE his behaviour and she said hers did that and after a night or two he realised he wasn't getting any attention and started eating. So I thought I'd give it a whirl tonight. I remained calm and ignored him. First he said he didn't like it as it was too spicy. It did have some mild spice in so I gave him a blander version I had on the side anyway and said 'fine eat this then' and we had the same fidgeting and delaying and him saying stuff and I ignored it all. My eldest meanwhile had pudding and was allowed to watch tv. My 3 yo asked if he could eat and watch tv, but he still wouldn't eat so I've put him upstairs where he had a major meltdown.

What do I do now? I'm prepared for him not to finish his dinner and go to bed without tv but this is hideous. I'm assuming it has to get worse before it gets better??

any other tips/ideas would be most appreciated!!

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sunshine05 · 17/10/2014 20:21

what does everyone think about routine in terms of dishes? I was thinking about this earlier- my eldest has a school lunch menu at school and it's rotated so there are 3 different menus (one per week) and they just roll over again and again. Now I know kids like routine and familiarity- would having the same things over and over (but like the school ones, maybe a 3 week one so we get variety) make things easier for him- then he'll be more 'comfortable' with what's on offer? the only thing is DH loves trying out new foods but I think we're more adventurous than a lot of families and it's probably the worst thing for our poor fussy eater! We get the good food magazine subscription so love trying out new dishes. Maybe I could have one new dish a week at least then he has other familiar meals the rest of the week?

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ThisOpalExpert · 08/04/2025 17:14

Hey OP - update us please, what happened in the last few years with your fussy eater? Did they grow out of it in the end, or turn into a fussy teenager?

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