My 3 1/2 ds is driving me crazy, he just will not do a thing he is told without being asked again and agian, threatened etc. I feel like I spend most of the day shouting just to get him to do basic stuff. I have tried a star chart, rewarding good behaviour, like him actually doing as he is asked the first time!! But 1) he hardly got any stars and 2) he started manipulating me...every time he was asked to do something it was...will i get a star for it, if i do? so i have given up on that. It is a constant battle of wills, is he an incredibly strong-willed child, or normal? I feel sad because he is generally a lovely and very bright boy, but he has decided to just be as difficult as possible now and it means we have less and less stress free quality time to really enjoy each others company. I don't want to spend my life shouting and telling off. Help!!!