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Sensitive - what do you call your ds' girlie bits?

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beegee · 19/09/2006 22:18

This is a tough one - I've a 3 yo ds and i've confidently called his private 'bits' his willie..he's happy with this and always uses the name when needed. No probs there. With girls its harder...i've got a 6 mo ds and, although it's early days, i feel i'm already searching for an equivalent for my daughters girlie 'bits' but struggling i'm afraid!

I'm not a prude. I don't find it difficult to talk about these issues. I just want to avoid the name my mum called mine - wee wee - eeeck! Now I call mine 'my vagina' but this doesn't seem right for a little girl and it always makes me feel a bit...errr...cringey IYKWIM.

When my ds and dd share a bath or when i'm changing my dss nappy, my ds is satisfied that she just 'hasn't got a willie'. But it's started to make me think - what does one name it?!!

I apologise if this offends anyone...not intended. I would love others opinions/experiences.

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FrannyandZooey · 22/09/2006 21:20

ROFL at this thread

Cod how is vulva more graphic than vagina?

UrsulatheSeaWitch · 22/09/2006 21:22

expat's dds should have a front fanny and a back fanny, lol.

expatinscotland · 22/09/2006 21:23

It's a lulu or a fanjo!

Why complicate it w/all those syllables, Ursula?

I prefer The Wife of Bath's term, from The Canterbury Tales.

'Ma belle chose'.

crazydazy · 22/09/2006 21:23

Tuppy.

Her friend calls girls "minky" and boys "winky" which I think is funny.

Boys "pee pee".

UrsulatheSeaWitch · 22/09/2006 21:26

But what do you call your backside/rear/arse, expat? I need to know!

MissingMySleep · 22/09/2006 21:39

DS aged 3 just found his testicles - argh - what do we call these?

Still debating what to call baby DD's fanny when she starts talking. DS has had a good look and advised me that she has two bottoms, one for poo and one for wee, and I agreed with him.

He hsa been telling me ever since he noticed things that I do have a willy, despite me telling him I don't have one - yes you do mummy, you have a hair willy.

The last thing I want to do is confuse the kids or make these parts of their bodies any different to the other parts, starting off any unnecessary hang ups.

expatinscotland · 22/09/2006 21:40

It's her bum, Ursula. What else would it be? Rectum?

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beegee · 22/09/2006 21:53

Hello all! Been out all day - makes interesting reading!

Quite liking the word 'fanjo' - just wish we could re-invent the language so this was universal. Don't like the thought that only me & my dd (oh, and MNetters) know what I'm talking about if i were to use fanjo.

Agree with Franny about 'hole' - I don't like thinking i've got holes!! It sounds so undignified and doesn't acurately describe the areas. If i think of 'hole' i imagine an ear hole or nostril IYSWIM. Isn't it more of a 'passage'?

Can't we all use fanjo as common place as we use willie regularly ??! Then progress on to vulva/penis as they mature? Spread the word so the whole country uses fanjo IMO

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beegee · 22/09/2006 21:57

Interesting point about testicles...haven't had that from my 3 yo ds yet. Probably go for 'balls' although it does make me giggle.

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MissingMySleep · 22/09/2006 21:57

My SIL calls the little girls bits their "prives" - another one to throw into the mix.

I'm going to have to go with bits or fanjo, which can then lead onto fanny which is the word I use.

Still no idea what to call DS cherries / nuts / goolies etc...? Any suggestions gratefully received - will ask DH.

UrsulatheSeaWitch · 22/09/2006 21:57

Nooo, the bit you sit on - yours, not hers - Americans generally call it a fanny, don't they (like with fanny packs and fanny-shapers)?

MissingMySleep · 22/09/2006 21:59

Beegee I have to say, the look of shock on DS face when he found them made me crack up and unable to answer the question... eyebrows raised to th sky and "look mummy what's this!!!"

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:00

lol cherries, nuts!!
My dp has suggested plums. FFS!

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:02

MissingSleep - that's bloody hilarious! Balls make me laugh anyway - they're soooo wierd! (my ds has cute ones though, of course!)

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MissingMySleep · 22/09/2006 22:03

I asked MIL what she called her fanny - she used to call it Mary.

MissingMySleep · 22/09/2006 22:05

Think balls is a bit too adult for little kids, goolies is just too silly - so that leaves nuts or cherries, but not keen on either....

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:05

About to phone the in-laws to see what they called theirs! (feeling confident as i'm on 2nd glass of wine)

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MissingMySleep · 22/09/2006 22:07

Maybe the answer will come to me when I sleep zzzzzzz

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:07

And plums? Scroats is what my dp has just suggested - one for the future.

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:11
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Enid · 22/09/2006 22:14

we say fanjo

always have done

it is my word

FanjoTM*

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:22

Enid - did you invent it then? Love it.

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Enid · 22/09/2006 22:23

no my sister did

or I think she did

I got it off her anyway

my dds say it

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beegee · 22/09/2006 22:24

Cool

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curlew · 22/09/2006 22:38

My ds when he was 3 had "tentacles"! I think for boys willie is the best word. Widely used, universally acceptable and comprehensible and can pass into adult life without too much cringe. Why anyone would want a euphemism for willie is beyond me. Still don't like children using vagina and vulva - as I said, it's not prudery, its just I don't like children using over grown up language about anything - and I think we have to be careful (throws lighted taper into the firework box and gets ready to run) about fighting our own political battles through our children.I know that if I had trained my dd to say vulva, it would be because I want the word to be mainstreamed and stripped of embarassment. It would be for my own ends, not my dds, whou would be happy saying frontbottom or, God help me, twinkle like her friends. Don't like bits, by the way - it has a disparaging overtone to me. But then, I have shouted vagina in a crowded theatre. Couldn't bring myself to shout c*, though!