Calling mum's of 2 year old NT daughters

[Babieseverywhere]

Just wondering if you could answer a few questions

1. How many verbal words does your daughter use ?

1. Would she ignore you, if you call her name ?

1. How difficult or easy is it to strap her into car seat/pram ?

1. How much and how loudly does your daughter scream ?

1. Would your daughter play on their own for half an hour or take themselves upstairs to bed ?

1. Does your daughter get very upset if you are not around, even when daddy is with them ?

1. Anything else you want to tell me that NT two year old girls do or don't do.

Honestly...I am confused.

I am very worried about 6yo DS and his quirks and anxiety at school which the school dismissed as poor parenting only, he us just a boy.

I would of said up to last week that 2yo DD3 is a feisty difficult toddler. Similar hard work to how DS was at her age. She has no sense of danger, cry brave. But she is highly social with family (unlike DS) but pushes past strangers.l like he does.

She needs to catch up with her speech, which I think she will. I think she is too young too label and frankly wish all help/support to be direct to DS who really struggles.

I don't know...just keep on living them and see what happens.

Honestly...I am confused.

I am very worried about 6yo DS and his quirks and anxiety at school which the school dismissed as poor parenting only, he is just a boy.

I would of said up to last week that 2yo DD3 is a feisty difficult toddler. Similar hard work to how DS was at her age. She has no sense of danger, very brave. But she is highly social with family (unlike DS) but pushes past strangers like he does.

She needs to catch up with her speech, which I think she will. I think she is too young too label and frankly wish all help/support to be direct to DS who really struggles.

I don't know...just keep on loving them and see what happens.

I should add I also have two daughters aged 8 yo and 4yo, who I am not worried about and are very happy at school and were relatively normal easy toddlers.

They had tandrums etc...but nobody stared at them when them screamed, much easier to get dressed and change nappies.

So I am not a poor parent, I have two very well behaved children as well.

Sigh..DD3 will catch up, won't she ?

DS will like school this year, won't he ?..please. .I can not have another school year like last year.

I am not sleeping as DD3 isn't and all I do is worry about DS and DD3. :(

DD is 2 years 1 month..

1. Too many to count, she has a large vocabulary and is using sentences.
2. Not often unless engrossed
3. Not had an issue there
4. Probably a couple of times a day we have a screaming/crying fit over something, some days none, on others every 2 minutes. She is exceptionally whiny though, everything is said in a reeeeally annnoyiiiiing vooooice
5. Will play alone quite happily for 30 minutes, often more. Doesn't take self to bed because we always do that but if we asked her to climb in unassisted she would. She understands and obeys requests.
6. No, she's ok with me not being around, although sometimes gets a bit stroppy when I return.

Babieseverywhere I didn't mean to make you upset. Sorry I've hurt you. I just read your title thread and judged it without actually knowing what you were really applying. So I'm sorry again. I won't judge a thread so hastily and no I don't think you are insensitive.

Thanks adrianna22

It's so weird Nicecupoftea... DS non verbal communication skills are his best skills. He can understand facial expressions, tone, gestures, shares interests...but yet he still has an ASD diagnosis. Though saying that, they did have to assess him three times! Plus are now considering if actually DS just has a learning disability (sigh) but DS is too complex and quite young to tell.

To the OP, I understand the worrying, believe me I've been there. But I distracted myself from worrying to actually just working on my DS's needs.

What child are you worried about, regarding social communication difficulties?

Doesn't matter, but for the last few years I've been searching websites to properly explain the difference or absent skills of kids who are at risk of having social communication difficulties and I found this site > Go on www.teachmetotalk.com, The speech therapist has her own podcasts, which is on her website or download over 200 of her podcasts on ITUNES. But they explain every question regarding parents worries about communication, behaviour problems, speech, sensory needs and gives you loads of advice. It has given me a better understanding and if you listen to it, I hope you find the answers your looking for.

DD 22 months

1. Not loads. Maybe 20, but understands a lot more. Some 2 word "sentences", rarely.

1. Yes, if distracted or simply not interested!

1. Not difficult usually. If she is messing around then force is occasionally applied.

1. Doesn't scream a lot but when she does, Jesus it makes your ears ring.

1. Yes, she likes playing on her own. She will trot off to bed if asked, although not every time.

1. Yes, worse if I'm in the house but separated eg in the loo. When out with family she will cling at first but then be easily distracted.

1. She's happy, content, independent, but a mummy's girl and very stubborn

I have a son, just turned two. He is NT as far as I know:

1. Not counted the number of words. He's still at the one word at a time stage- not proper sentences. A sample: "Mam, MAM!! Juice. Go: juice, socks, Hudl, hats!" Translation: "Good morning mother, I have just awoken. I should very much appreciate it if you would bring me breakfast and assist me to dress. After that I would like to watch fireman Sam on your portable tablet devise."

1. He would sometimes ignore me if I was trying to get his attention for something boring like a nappy change. If he suspected cake of toys might be on the cards he would pay attention. He doesn't ignore his childminders who is better at parenting him than I am

1. It can be difficult to strap him into a buggy if he doesn't want to go in it.

1. He's more a winger than a screamer.

1. I have seen him play on his own for 15 mins at playgroup. Usually he will check in with me at around the 10 main mark. For example- he'll come and show me a toy and I'll give him a little hug and say Hi and then he'll toddle off on his way. He will not put himself to bed. Sometimes he fights sleep so hard he will literally be clawing at his face to pull his own eyelids open.

1. No, he's happy to be with Dad or childminder.

Dd, 2:4, has lots of words ( but has massive vocabulary compared to most kids her age, according to nursery). She rarely responds to her name, unless and until she feels like doing so (manipulative darling). She doesn't scream much, never has, and is always pretty cool with going into car seats, buggies etc. She will only occasionally play on her own for half an hour, perhaps if absorbed in painting or similar, and would never, ever, ever, take herself to bed! She rarely asks for me over her daddy (or others) but to be fair, she was in nursery from 5 months old due to expediency on my part, so this would perhaps be unlikely (don't get me wrong - we are very well bonded I feel).
Good luck OP - hope all works out for you and your lovely dd.

I was originally just worried about 6yo DS

He has been a nightmare to get to school every day (bar a couple) last school year.
School say he is fine, it is normal for boys to hate school and refuse to come in every morning and suggested I do a parenting course.

Audiology consultant said 6yo DS has sensitive hearing and she has concerns about social communication difficulties.

SALT is half way through assessment on 6yo DS and said verbally he has social communication difficulties.

School and I filled out AQ questionaires. I marked them online about 6yo DS.
Ours shows high score for possible ASD. Schools contradicts themselves in the answers and STILL either just over line or just under..depending on which scoring bands the Comm Paed team are using.

Currently awaiting Comm Paed appointment and dreading return to school for 6yo DS

But following last week's two year check on 2yo DD3. She scored very low on speech & language AND hearing & language AND interactive social sections on the test. She is only operating at 15 month level in these areas.

Yet she got to 3 yo level on visual processing, before she got bored and threw the rest of the cards down.

The nurse testing her said DD3 had a spiky profile and there are concerns with being two levels down on those three sections mentioned above and therefore she wanted to refer DD3 to Comm Paed and for a hearing test.

She wouldn't say what the concerns related too..I asked if it was social communication difficulties but she said she wasn't qualified to speculate further and it is best that DD3 is checked out by Comm Paed.

So now I am worried about both children...bless them.

That said feeling more positive today....what will be, will be :)