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When did you last tell your child that you LIKE them

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Twiglett · 05/09/2006 13:43

not Love them .. but like them .. like their personality, their humour, their kindness .. like the person they are

because it means something different to Love and kids know that ... because you HAVE to love them .. you're their parent .. but Liking them is optional .. you can love without liking, you can like without loving

It is NOT just semantics

It makes a difference

Try it .. seriously .. take them to one side when its nice and quiet and tell them you like them and why you like them

not too often but once in a while

go on

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Gobbledigook · 05/09/2006 13:45

Er, well, obviously I say 'I love you' all the time.

Ds2 (3.10) is always saying 'I like you mummy' so I often say 'I like you too'.

Otherwise I usually say things such as:

You are clever
You are gorgeous
You are funny
You are kind
You are daft/silly - but you know, in a nice way when they are doing something funny
You are really good/well behaved

To say 'I like you' is a bit of a funny one - but go on then, I'll try it later

Seashells · 05/09/2006 13:46

I'm going to do this, I don't think I've ever said that to them, it's always love you!

Sobernow · 05/09/2006 13:49

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Twiglett · 05/09/2006 13:50

not just a 'hey I like you'

more of a "DS/DD do you know I really like you because you ......., you're just a lovely person and I wanted you to know that"

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CountessDracula · 05/09/2006 13:51

yesterday

What I actually said was

You have been a wonderful girl this weekend, Mummy and Daddy have really really enjoyed your company and we have all had such fun haven't we?

oliveoil · 05/09/2006 13:52

I do this

On Sunday I was toasting some pancakes and burnt one lot. So I made some more for dd1. She looks at the burnt ones and asks who is eating those so I said "I am".

"Oh, don't eat burnt ones mummy, you can share mine" and came over with one.

I gave her a big hug etc and she was beaming for ages.

And then when dh decided to surface I had to tell him all about it as well.

Gobbledigook · 05/09/2006 13:52

Oh OK, yes I do that a lot twig.

MrsApronstrings · 05/09/2006 13:55

I don't think I say Like but do definately tell them I'm proud, a great person etc, also dd is very kind, thoughtful, and resouceful and we tell her this whenever there is an incident that warrants it. (now felling guilty about ds1 who prob needs it more than any of the children in this house)

thanks twiglett I will get on the case!

littlerach · 05/09/2006 13:58

Yes, yesterday I was looking after a friends daughter who is in DD1's class. they are friends, but not that close.
Anyway, DD1 really tried ahrd to include her all day, and shared her toys so well.
So I told her how wonderful she was, and how proud I am of her.
I do it most days.

joelallie · 05/09/2006 14:35

I often tell them that they have been kind, thoughtful, good company, funny etc. A 100% good day with no rows in a family with 3 kids is quite a rarity and should be celebrated

PeachyClairHasBadHair · 05/09/2006 14:39

every day, although more specifically as in 'I like having time to talk with you because you are so interesting'

or 'I like the way you make friends, it's such a brilliant talent'

my boys like specifics, I think most kids do

PeachyClairHasBadHair · 05/09/2006 14:41

every day, although more specifically as in 'I like having time to talk with you because you are so interesting'

or 'I like the way you make friends, it's such a brilliant talent'

my boys like specifics, I think most kids do

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Twiglett · 05/09/2006 16:49

exactly like that peacyclair (but maybe not daily)

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JoolsToo · 05/09/2006 16:54

prefixed by 'oooh you are awful'?

Flumpybumpy · 05/09/2006 17:04

My DD told me the other day that she was very excited about going back to playschool so she could see her friends. I asked her who was her best friend and she turned and looked my straight in the eye and said 'you are, of course Mummy, I like you more than anyone!' After wiping the tears away I told her that I liked her very much too and we would always be friends to which she replied ' that's a deal Mummy, shake on it!'

hulababy · 05/09/2006 17:05

I often do the " I like the way you... I like what you did ... " etc. I try and put in specifics of what she has done.

SoMuchToBits · 05/09/2006 17:07

Don't know if I actually say I like ds, but I do say things like "I really like going to the beach with you ds, because you're such good fun."

heiferjamese · 05/09/2006 17:36

I totally agree with you twiglett.. My DD 2.8 often asks me, do you like me mummy. To wish I used to really, I love you etc...

But then realised that she wanted me to like her, the way she likes other people....

I find it hard to say I like you, as it totally understates how I feel and want to say love.. but I don't think DD get love, but gets like....

I will definately try harder to like her....

My DD tells me "you are my best friend in the whole wide world in his hands"... always make me laugh,...

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