DS2 4yrs having tantrums and wetting pants on arrival of baby sister

[josben]

I've just had a baby DD 5 weeks ago and both DS1 5yrs and DS2 4yrs were over the moon with her arrival and with it being school holidays they have spent lots of time with her and me which has been good. But lately DS1 has been being a lot more rough with her (Which I don't think is accidental) and DS2 has reverted back to babyish behavior - I'm sure this is all normal but does anyone who's been in this position have any tips on ways to help them not feel jealous of their baby sister - now that they've realised she's here to stay!

DS1 was just over 3 years when DD was born. He had been completely dry for over a year. When she was born he started wetting himself during the day frequently (5 or 6 times) full on sock and shoe soggy wetting. This went on for 18 months and believe me, along with HVs help, we tried every method. None worked He just suddenly stopped one day, although he did continue to leave damp patches in his pants (which he had not done before DD was born) for another 3 years .

Just after DD was born his tantrums increased too but these soon settled down. He was great with her btw and loved being with her. I suppose its quite an adjustment for them to make. Sorry, no words of wisdom just that it is perfectly normal.