attachment in 7 mo

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Ds is showing signs of preferring me for cuddles, holding, most things it seems. Dh is still the giggle friend, games and all, but nothing else right now.

Is this a stage? Ds has just started saying mama, realise he probably hasn't assigned it meaning but he only says it whilst crying and trying to get back to me (hard staring with big fat tears). Could that be related?

Conversely, he sat for about two minutes alone at playgroup earlier, I was watching but he couldn't see me, and he was oblivious!

It's definitely a normal stage, my dd was v clingy from 6mths onwards, pesking around 12-15 months. She was particularly clingy I think, but most children are to some extent.

You just need to reassure him you are there and make sure he is secure in the knowledge you will always come back for him. Never sneak out without letting him know, talk to him if you have to put him down to do something even of he's upset etc.

I meant peaking, but pesking works too I suppose!

Dd is 7m and is a complete mama's girl. She has fun with dh but is majorly clingy with me. It's also often only me who can make her smile and lauh when she is upset. She's well into the separation anxiety phase so screams when I leave the room.

It's all a phase apparently and it will pass!

Thanks for the replies, it is really lovely bring so needed but I'm starting to feel for dh. If the roles were reversed I'd feel pretty rejected

I keep telling him soon enough that I'll be the dull one and daddy coming home and being all exciting will be what he longs for. Already I barely get any laughs! He saves them for daddy

It's very early days. Give it another couple of years and you will be the one feeling rejected.

You are giving your baby the very best thing in the world that any parent can give their child - your unconditional love and the fact that your LO clings to you means that there is a secure attachment pattern which will be a protective factor for him throughout his lifespan. Same goes for his daddy too, and children do chop and change their allegiances over time between their parents. Happy days! Mine all long flown the coop!