3 year old thats naughty

[marriedwithkids]

hi, im feeling really guilty at the moment ,my son he is 3 he has just been having one of his paddies about getting dressed. he was crying, paddying shouting to me cause he would not walk into his bedroom to get dressed. he wanted me to come and get him, at this point I had asked him to get dressed about ten times...after I had finished getting his toddler sibling dressed. I went to fet him as he was still screaming as he wouldnt budge.
I then put him in time out.. but I shouted at him to get dressed.. I am feeling guilty for shouting at him at the top of my voice.
I went into his bedroom and sat on the floor while he sobbed while getting dressed.. his temper recently has become really bad

He's 3. It's normal. It's also normal to get frustrated and wound up like you did. When this happens with my DD I just give her lots of cuddles. No one knows what sets a 3 year old off as it changes day to day minute to minute

Just know you are not alone.

This book helped me understand a bit more about why my DD had tantrums.

I'd just dress him yourself. Why battle over something he won't do? Maybe I am doing it wrong but I involve my son in choosing what he wants to wear and offer alternatives if he gets upset. At the moment m three year old is very determined that he do things himself so I give him the freedom to do so.

I love that book JimmyCorkhill - OP i think there are free you-tube video's to explain it.

But OP i don't think you can expect a 3 year old to go and dress themselves - by themselves, if it happens great, but they probably still need help and supervision most of the time.

One thing you didn't do (or so it would seem) was tell him that you will not listen to him while he is making such a fuss / noise and then ignore him until he is quiet. With our 3yo we do that and one he has quietened down we will go in and ask him if he is ready to get dressed etc. Sometimes he says no (and we walk away) and sometimes he will say yes. This only works if you have unlimited time but it sends the message that you will not give him any attention when he is making a fuss.

We also have a "without a fuss" marble jar for hand washing, eating fruit, getting dressed and undressed etc. This is working at the moment to overcome our current spate of tantrums.

Also, the worst thing you can do is show him it is getting to you. And shouting. Try to avoid both.

he hasnt just turned 3 he is nearly 4 in a couple of months. plus he is going to school in september.
he can do it himself! so I know yesterday he was just paddying because I was paying attention to my youngest.
I do sit on the floor and show labels go at back etc.
I just feel guilty at shouting at him.
he is going through a stage that everything is fraustrating him..
I like you advice pp I may give him a cuddle next time he is playing up