Three year old terrible emotional outburst

[littleraysofsunshine]

She's been having these awful outburst with roaring/screaming inconsolable. Can't be teething as she has them all.

Tiredness is a massive reason but it's just lately.

She's just drawn all over her bed and floor.

This behaviour is the opposite of her usual caring self. She's recently started preschool, and has a baby brother who is six weeks old. I don't think these are the issues. Dd2 has been a handful too but I think hers is teething and lack of playgroups as I've been trying to not do too much at the minute to give myself recovery time.

Having a shitty afternoon where I've just spent the last hour shouting. Which I hate

'She's recently started pre school, and has a baby brother who is six weeks old'

I think you have your answer here OP. That is a huge amount for one little person to process, and she is not mature enough to know how to express and manage her response to these changes. Talk to her about it, don't shout, and give it time.

ds is nearly 3 and has been like this since his little sister arrived nearly 3 weeks ago. when I find him spiralling into him screaming and me constantly telling him off I go and sort laundry (its the only room no one follows me in to!) and come back determined to only say positive things to ds - lots of praise and telling him what behaviour we do like not what we dont like. he seems to be getting better. well screaming has turned into a teenage style whine/grumble so I think thats progress?

She's not been effected so far. Just literally the past week. And it's always when tired. This time of day.

I have done everything for them, I've not stopped doing the fun things at home. I've done drawing and painting with the easel in the garden and play dough today but they have still been horrendous.

It's mostly when I feel I need five minutes to myself. They either argue over the same toy or just do something naughty. I never get time to myself so to get a hot cup of tea means the world to me right now but even that I don't get lol

I just want to shout in order for them to listen. I try the nice approach and soft speaking but doesn't work

I try to be happy, and chirpy and talk to her. But it falls on dead ears when she's like this. I always try to remember that even if I lose my patience. I hate myself for it but were only human right?

It may not have happened up until not but for her things are sinking in that this is how it is now. I'm almost certain that it is as combination of nursery and new sibling. Time in and dedicated 1:1 time may help. She may feel that you are now sharing her live for her with someone else.

Dd1 exactly the same - and echo what the other posters have said its a huge amount to process no matter how well you are guiding her through it. When dd did this I just tended to sit near her and do something like flick through an a magazine until she calmed down and we could talk properly/ have a cuddle. It will pass

Ignoring is strangely calming and you feel so much better for not losing it - before we adopted that tactic everyone was screaming!

We both try to give them individual time but even then she wants daddy. We have such a strong bond and I think I have now realised I'm probably doing everything for her and dd2 but not doing enough with them. I feel like I don't have all the time in the world at the moment. They usually play so nicely together in the garden and I saw that as my cue to take 20mins rest which I never get.