We stopped giving 6 month old ds a dummy at bedtime and naptime on Friday, it's now Tuesday and he is still distressed about it (I read all these articles about 'in 3 days he'll have forgotten all about it'... nope.)
I'm not implacably anti-dummy, we went cold turkey because he was fiddling with it as he went to sleep, pulling it out, waking up and crying, so we were ending up pinning his arms down on the mattress every time until he dropped off - we knew that wasn't exactly a good sleep habit to teach him. I thought learning to self-settle would be a good thing and might also help with longer naps (he still only does 45 mins at a time.)
Now, he is having real trouble going to sleep in his cot. He misses that feeling of being held and comforted, which I am ok with as we can do hand-holding etc. We went through a long phase of comforting to sleep with ds 1 and him slowly learning to self-settle, so we have been there before. But he also really misses the sucking which is making the comforting hard, if my hand or face is anywhere near him he tries desperately to suck on them.
Now, I know he doesn't have to suck to fall asleep. He sleeps in a buggy, or a sling, or in our bed when cuddled. I do realise that he just wants lots of comforting to replace the soothing sucking. But how do I help him right now when he is so hard to comfort in his cot? He sometimes sucks his fingers or thumb but clearly doesn't consider this a worthy substitute.
By the way he still has several overnight feeds (c.10pm, 2am, 6.30am) where he feeds to sleep, I realise this may be sending mixed messages however I shudder at the thought of putting him down awake then him crying with frustration and waking up ds 1 at these times of night.
I would be really interested to hear from anyone else who has been through this process, or similar... thanks.