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advice on 7yr old with no friends

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Kayleigha · 01/02/2013 21:35

my 7year old told two nights ago he has no friends at school and he always plays on his own
he was very upset. I've discussed with teacher today and they will start to buddy him up with kids to try and make new friends but surely it shouldn't be this hard at their age?

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Virtuallyarts · 01/02/2013 21:42

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Kayleigha · 01/02/2013 21:49

the teacher is going to try different kids over next week to.buddy with and see who he gets on with. inviting them over is good idea once he has found someone he gets on with. due to speak with school next week to see how he is getting along with this buddy scheme.
really is heartbreaking seeing them upset and knowing you can't be with them at school for support.
hoping its just a faze...

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DIYapprentice · 01/02/2013 22:01

I feel for you and your DS. My DS1 (5, almost 6) sometimes comes home and says he has been on his own all day and that nobody would play with him. It's heartbreaking.

See if you can find out what activities/games the other boys tend to do/play. Sometimes it's a sport thing, and if your DS isn't able to join in he will be left out.

While asking your DS about who he would like to invite over, make sure you ask whether there are any boys he DOESN'T want to have over or be buddied up with. You don't want to inadvertently put him in a situation where he is made to spend time with any children that are being mean to him.

exoticfruits · 01/02/2013 22:14

I always recommend Beavers- very good for mixing. Go with his interests and do things outside school. Meanwhile invite a DC home from school.

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Kayleigha · 01/02/2013 22:16

he is very open in telling me and the teacher who is nasty to him so dont think there any worry of inviting wrong kids over, think they buddy him with kids he never played with before. he use to enjoy football in the lower years but now he feels he not good enough as much more competitive.

he has never really had a close friend at school which i think is what he needs, however he doesn't do himself any favours as he can be very fussy with who he play with so maybe he needs help with social skills.

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Kayleigha · 01/02/2013 22:20

exoticfruits: he recently quit beavers as he said the woman who ran it shouted constantly and it gave him headaches. he does football.once a week after schoolbut those children them won't mix with him in.school.

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exoticfruits · 01/02/2013 22:29

Beavers is only as good as the leaders- any other interests?

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Kayleigha · 01/02/2013 22:38

he does football which he loves the one club as its not too hard. but he can't move that confidence in the smaller footy club to school play where they play football also, he then thinks he.not good enough.

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Virtuallyarts · 02/02/2013 07:39

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Kayleigha · 02/02/2013 08:02

he has a very close friend who lives a few doors away from us actually.as is same age but unfortunately they go to different school though, just don't understand why he struggling at school.

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