attachment parenting how to: toddler an baby

[Littleraysofsunshine]

Have two beautiful girls. Two years and six months.

Those of you who use attachment parenting. What re your tips in those tantrums and difficult fussy eating. And to not feel that the child is trying to annoy you and just adopt a calm patient attitude and not let it eat you up if you feel like you're getting it all wrong?

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Wine. Copious amounts of wine...

Truthfully? Meals for me work best when I don't focus on feeding at all. If I just try to lay with it well for some reason it works. If I think ffs frickin eat it u need to eat well it all goes very Peter tong..

Don't focus on feeding. Focus on a different play thing so to speak

I only have one at present (20 months) but for us I try to love-bomb when DS tantrums, seems to work and the anger leaves him although if he was very frustrated he will still be upset - but when he's upset he wants cuddles to calm down so it works well :)

I don't stress about mealtimes, I figure that sometimes I'm hungry and other times I'm not so why should DS be any different? I also offer him a choice of 2 things most mealtimes - it may only be "do you want cheese or ham on your sandwich?" and show him the 2 options but I hope that as he gets older it will help as he's chosen what he wants so slightly more likely to actually eat it :)

I always try to remember that he's basically a mini adult, with the same needs as I have, and his own personality, but without the same ability to communicate his needs so at times of course he will get angry/frustrated or I won't understand why he will or won't do something.

I do sometimes get annoyed at him which I think is a normal reaction eg if we need to be somewhere on time and he's messing about. But I tell him I'm sorry once I calm down and give him hugs, and he's started doing the same to me when he's had a tantrum which I find lovely :)

DD 'eats' with us. Food is put in front of her and whatever is not eaten gets thrown away. I do not have battles about food because I will lose and she will think it is a great way of controlling me.

She gets exactly what DH and I have - we did BLW from the start, so I don't even feel as if I have made special food that has gone to waste.

Tantrums are a different ball game - '1,2,3 Magic', the 'Dr Sear's Good Behaviour Book' and if really, really dire (like mine) 'Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child'!

I find my patience level being low lately and end up shouting

I am usually so calm but lately I'm not. Tiredness doesn't help.

What are your tips for discipline/ teaching toddler good behaviour without shouting?