Does my baby look big in this?

[shinyshilling]

My baby is 3 months today, weighs 14lb and measures 65cm.She is bottle fed and the HV says she is totally fine and just will be a big baby. I have never been bothered how people look etc and I am quite happy with the way she is as long as she's happy and healthy, which she seems to be. However, I am growing increasingly irritated at people commenting on her size and appearance. It seems as though people can say what they like about babies. Yesterday I took her into work and people said "God, she's massive, what are you feeding her?" Everywhere I go, people comment on her size, so it's not just one or two. I get sick of all the comparisons people make as I think all babies are different. How have other people dealt with this? Does it make you cross and defensive? What have you responded with to fend off the negative comments?

Rant number 2! I'm also sick of my mil going on about how much she looks like her daddy. It's not that I don't want her to, it's that I'm sick of mother in law going on about it. She actually said the other day "You know she looks nothing like you, she's just the double of her daddy and everyone thinks so". I felt really hurt, like I've just carried her for 9 months and now she's nothing like me.She also bought her babygrows which were 6 to 9 months and clearly far too big for her as she's "a big baby" I'm quite shocked at how irritated and hurt I feel about these comments as I've always believed that commenting on people's appearance is shallow. Any tips for coping strategies would be appreciated. Thanks

My Mil kept banging on how chubby my ds was when he was a baby, drove me mad. Just like his dad etc etc, now the poor love gets 'Oh your soo skinny. Mummy not feeding you?' And he looks like mummy now, gone from blondie to brown and its great!

As for collecting a set, i have sorely disappointed mil by having yet another boy! She has no interest in this pg as he isn't a she. I'm glad, means she won't poke her nose in again.

Rant over.

Can totally sympathise with all the big baby comments! My DD was born average but put on a lot of weight very quickly, the HV even tried to put the poor thing on a diet, i.e watering down her formula, they were so obsessed with her being "overweight" that they totally missed the fact that she was suffering from very bad reflux and I only got a diagnosis by going for a private consultation when she was 8 weeks old. When she was 3 months a HV told me that she would suffer from breathing problems and wouldnt be able to sit up because she was so big, I cried for a whole day after that one.

DD is now 14 months, sat up at 4 1/2 months, crawled at 7 months, walked on her own from 11 months and is the cutest chubby little girl in the world!! :o She is now in size 18-24 months clothes and people still comment on how big she is for her age but also like to point out that she dosent have my build at all, I'm 8 stone and 5' 6", and I feel like saying "do you think I'm stupid and cant see that" but then I think how nice it is that she makes somebody stop to look at her in the first place and if she was average nobody would pass a second glance! HTH

Shinyshilling, I always had people telling me my DS was huge - he was 14.5 lb at 3 months. DH is tall and broad, so I wasn't surprised, and always felt quite proud of how much bigger he was getting! BTW I don't think it's got anything to do with bottle feeding - DS was breastfed, and seemed to put on a lb a week for ages. Then when he got to 1, he just stopped putting on so much, and now at 23 months weighs only a couple of lbs more than a year ago. He's still tall, and has been wearing age 2-3 clothes for a while.

Another good thing I found about it was once he got to 12 lb, he could sleep for longer at night, as his tummy could hold more milk than smaller babies. Also if he is unwell and not hungry for a few days, he has a store of energy to call on.

Are these worries a reflection of how weight conscious we are as a society? I think it's dangerous to put this onto a little baby, who ought to be chubby! I don't mean us mums, but all the "well meaning" commentators who make us worry.

Show off your big baby with pride, I say!

Or in fact, your small baby.

WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS, as they say in Monte Python...

Or in fact, your small baby.

WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS, as they say in Monte Python...

Ds was a whopper - 98th for weight and 91st for height. He was wearing 18-24mth clothes at 7 months. nOw 3.5 and pretty average really.

Dd is a teeny tiny elf in comparison - just under 50th centile weight and under 25th centile height.

Dd gets comments on how pretty she is, but ds only got "Flippin eck he's massive"

In the MIL thing, I think they are just useless at saying the right thing. My MIL has got my goat by going on and on about what a beautiful baby DH was (much better looking than his siblings, he was so beautiful that she was worried someone would steal him - I kid you not [vomit emoticon]). Now while I sympathise with those of you who have been told you LO's don't look like you my MIL is adamant that none of the three DD's look at all like DH! Even DD's 1 & 3 with whom I get aquaintances of DH that I don't even know stopping me in the street and saying they are the spitting image of their dad. WTF is she inferring? Also everyone comments on the DD's good looks but she has never once complimented them. Arghhh rant over. You can tell I don't like her can't you?

Oddly DD3 is 99th cent for height and 75th for weight but I have never had the what a whopper comments thank goodness.

Enjoyed reading this thread. I have had both ends of the spectrum. From having a relatively "normal" sized DD1 (7lb 13 oz) to a rather splendid DS2 (10lb 3oz). The most rage inducing comment about my DD1 was from my sister in laws mother (whilst talking about my DD, but nothing to do with her weight) who asked whether I had been big as a child, a) implying she was fat and b) that it was obviously me who had passed on the fat gene. As usual my response was not a well thought through witty retort that I would be proud to tell you about - but instead so taken aback by the comment I mumbled something about her being absolutely perfect - and instead fumed for the rest of the party thinking about what I could have said instead.

However, with my DS, like the other poster I expect people to comment on what a fine strapping specimen I have produced and am taken aback if they don't. I suppose you can't win!