not talking yet

[tattieboagle]

My 2 year old n is not talking yet and has started to be very violent, hitting every one, children and adults. What is the best way to discipline him. (i watch him 4 days a week)

I suppose small (very small) time outs & gentle scolding is the type of thing I would have done successfully with DS1 at that age. But make it clear that it's over with as soon as it's over with. Fresh start. No hard feelings. And only time outs when the hit was actually painful, attention-seeking slaps are just stopped quickly & eye contact to say no that's not nice, "would you like to do something fun, instead?" I don't agree that Bio parents have to do exactly the same, they'll have their own balance.

It sounds like MASSIVE attention seeking at that sort of age. If he could talk your ear off instead, he probably would.

DS2 was an impulsive slapper, pusher & thrower until 7yo, or so. Somehow I didn't screw up with other 3 DC in same way. Nothing blardy worked to eliminate it (mostly) completely except getting older.

It is common for children to hit sometimes. But it is really not common for kids to hit all the time or to to be described by the phrase 'he just kept walking up to children and smacking them in the face'

It is not a parenting failure for your child to hit another kid occasionally. It is a failure on the adult's part to allow the situation to continue as at the party described above.

I have never even seen a child wandering around smacking kids in the face - I have seen kids lash out over toy squabbles etc. If it is as the OP describes, this is not normal.

I know a child who did this. There was no particular reason for it. He never got smacked at home. His mum tried time out each time he did it as she was at the end of her tether but it didn't help. So instead she did the following him about intervening each time and reminding him not to hit. It worked after a while and he's grown into a lovely little boy. No major issues.

PooPoo exactly the advice many people have given the OP - head it off, make sure it doesn't happen in the first place.