what can your 7.5 yr old do?

[tunafortea]

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Can I ask: what can your 7.5 yr old (boy) do?

1. Get undressed fully (tops as well)
2. Dress themselves
3. Be aware of dangers
4. Be safe by road
5. Cut up food
6. Feed themselves reliably with spoon and fork
7. Cope with changes to routine
8. Do you need to settle them in bed and for how long?
9. Do you help washing their hands

10. Do you wipe their bottoms 11. Can they wash themselves 12. Can they brush own teeth

Thank you for any input. I am grateful

mamamaiasaura - hope you don't mind me borrowing your clever idea? Great way to find out what is standard for childs age (re stupid forms) when your child may not be standard, iyswim.

1. Yes, but sometimes needs encouraging.
2. Yes
3. Yes, but wouldn't rely on it.
4. Mostly, but again, wouldn't rely on it.
5. Yes, but can't be bothered a lot of the time
6. Yes
7. Not easily.
8. Yes. Depending on his mood, anything from a few minutes to an hour
9. Supervise rather than help, I would say

10. No. He does ask, but I don't help him anymore. 11. He probably can, but doesn't. He would rather stay smelly . We have to forcibly wash him occasionally. 12. Yes, but with supervision.

You're looking for what NT children can do as a baseline?

OK, DD is now 9 but at 7.5 I think was basically a yes to all those things listed.

For #8 - I would tuck her in and have a little chat, turn out light, kiss goodnight (taking maybe 5mins), and she would normally go to sleep fine by herself, but maybe once every week or two would come back down and need resettling.

Re #10 - she would wipe herself, but not always with 100 per cent success, judging by the state of the knickers in the laundry basket.

#11 - yes, would wash herself in bath, but I washed her hair (still do at age 9 - it's very long and curly).

This is really helpful.

Mine are:
No: 1-7: NO.
No 8: YES. up to 3.5 hours.
No 9-10 YES
No 11-12 NO
So, clearly diff from standard then.

Thanks, exexpat and Faverolles.

Any more?

Dd currently 7&6months, yes to all except 3&4

DS is 7.5 and can do all those things

Just read your list, tunafortea - #8 is and Is it that bad most of the time?

Sorry posted too soon 8-10 is a no, she can do all by herself

DS 7.9 can do all of these

Hi exexpat

Yes. Will get up 10+ times after put to bed. Bounces off walls. Always has no screen time, tea at 5.30. walk. warm bath, story. storytape. will often be pottering in room at 11.30pm

My DS is 7.8 with very slight issues reported in the past WRT fine motor skills, so...

1. Get undressed fully (tops as well) YES
2. Dress themselves YES (but has only just mastered socks)
3. Be aware of dangers MOSTLY
4. Be safe by road MOSTLY
5. Cut up food A BIT
6. Feed themselves reliably with spoon and fork YES (but prefers to use fingers)
7. Cope with changes to routine (N/A routine doesn't really happen in our house)
8. Do you need to settle them in bed and for how long? (NOT REALLY - sometimes he will go to sleep, sometimes we have story and a song, sometimes I am up and down the stairs a few times)
9. Do you help washing their hands SOMETIMES

10. Do you wipe their bottoms NO 11. Can they wash themselves YES can shower by himself and is unsupervised in bath, though I sometimes have at his face with a wet flannel if he's particularly enjoyed his tea 12. Can they brush own teeth YES though I still sometimes supervise

Hope this helps

DS (7.8 yrs) can do all of these though the cutlery and bum wiping is not great. He has HFA.

Ds2 is nearly 8
Can do all the things from 1-8
He puts on his pjs, I take him upstairs, we have a kiss and cuddle and he is asleep in 5 minutes.
I don't help him wash his hands, he would never let me wipe his bottom and he showers, washes hair, brushes teeth by himself every morning.

DS is 7.2

1. Get undressed fully (tops as well) YES
2. Dress themselves YES
3. Be aware of dangers YES, MOSTLY
4. Be safe by road AGAIN YES MOSTLY, CYCLES OUTSIDE IN OUR CLOSE, STOPS AND STANDS BY KERB IF CAR COMING
5. Cut up food YES
6. Feed themselves reliably with spoon and fork YES
7. Cope with changes to routine YES
8. Do you need to settle them in bed and for how long? HE NEVER WANTS TO GO TO BED BUT DOES SETTLE ONCE THERE
9. Do you help washing their hands NO

10. Do you wipe their bottoms NO 11. Can they wash themselves I WASH HIS HAIR THEN LEAVE HIM TO IT- HE MAKES A LOT OF MESS BUT GETS OUT BATH WHEN HE'S HAD ENOUGH, DRYS HIMSELF AND PUTS PJS ON 12. Can they brush own teeth YES, TAKES HIM A LONG TIME - HE LIKES TO FEEL HIS TEETH SQUEAK CLEAN

DD is 7 in a few weeks.

She would quite happily do all of the things on your list. I don't allow her to cross the road by herself yet but thinking about it now I think she would manage to do so safely if need be.

Thank you.

Bump

1. Get undressed fully (tops as well) - YES
2. Dress themselves - YES and that includes a proper tie as part of his school uniform.
3. Be aware of dangers - MOSTLY but he overestimates his abilities sometimes!
4. Be safe by road - YES, even cycles on the road with DH.
5. Cut up food - YES
6. Feed themselves reliably with spoon and fork - YES but still find chopsticks tricky!
7. Cope with changes to routine - YES
8. Do you need to settle them in bed and for how long? - NO, he settles himself. The only time i've settled him recently was when we were back from holidays and he was in the wrong time zone!
9. Do you help washing their hands - NO

10. Do you wipe their bottoms - NO and we have just moved from toddler wipes to toilet roll. 11. Can they wash themselves - YES 12. Can they brush own teeth - YES

My DS1 is 10 now, but thinking back to when he was 7.5

1. Get undressed fully (tops as well) YES
2. Dress themselves USUALLY YES but he struggled with buttons for ages so if he was wearing a shit he needed help
3. Be aware of dangers MOSTLY
4. Be safe by road MOSTLY
5. Cut up food YES
6. Feed themselves reliably with spoon and fork YES
7. Cope with changes to routine USUALLY YES
8. Do you need to settle them in bed and for how long? YES, not long though, I think we read to him for 15 minutes or so
9. Do you help washing their hands NO

10. Do you wipe their bottoms NO 11. Can they wash themselves YES but he never wanted to so we had to watch him 12. Can they brush own teeth YES

omg I meant shirt! If he was wearing a shirt! Not shit