Sorry for shouting but I am so shocked
I had an absolutely rotten meeting with the head and the school nurse yesterday
He grudgingly mentioned that he was going to refer her to the special needs team meeting - he had no "reason" to refer her but was going to anyway
The school nurse said he must because I was obviously upset by the situation.
He did and they have taken the whole thing really seriously - they are going to add her to their caseload, they want regular updates and will take action if the Family Support Team don't act fast enough. Apparently there is a recognised thingie (syndrome?) that mixed race children develop in predominantly whoite areas and it's connected to poor body image and is taken really seriously.
He apologised - and has done a 180 turn - I am so relieved