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First hairdresser haircut for ds (3yrs) in an hour and a half and he saying 'NO!'

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calebsmummy · 18/01/2006 12:42

I need your help. How do I persuade/bribe/con whatever I need to do to get ds2 to sit nicely at the hairdressers and have a haircut?

He has gorgeous blonde curls which I adore, but they really are getting long and straggly and in his eyes now, so needs must I am afraid. DH has been nagging me for ages to get it done!

I did ask the nice young hairdresser man on the phone if he had an appointment for a potentially unco-operative 3 year old with a good set of lungs and he hesitantly gave me 2 o clock. Only after I promised to bring bribes though....not sure if they are for Caleb or the hairdresser .

Hmm, I fear a fun afternoon coming up...NOT!!

I am going armed with smarties (yes I know not good later, but nice and fiddly and take ages to eat) and colouring book and pens etc. Oh and his 1 year old brother, which could be tricky (I wonder if some nice young hairdresser girl would like to play with him for me?)

Wish me luck!

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Hulababy · 18/01/2006 12:43

Good luck!

You never know he might enjoy it. DD loves going to the hairdressers.

lovecloud · 18/01/2006 12:49

Whenever I need to do this with my dd similar age I always sit down for 10 mins or 5 in your case and say do you want me to tell you a story?

Then you make up a little story about a little boy or girl who had to go and get their haircut.

You can say the little boy didnt want it done and so his hair grew too long and all messy.

He saw his friend in the park on the swings and his friend looked different and then he noticed that his hair was shorter and that he had had a haircut. All the children thought he looked great and the little boy was very happy with his new hair and he was so good he mum gave hime smartied and bought him a great magazine.

so the little boy with the long messy hair decided that he wanted a great new haircut like his friend, his mum took him to the hairdressers and it was so quick. he was so well behaved his mum gave him some smartied and him a new magazine in tghe shop.

the littl was boy was very happy with his new hair cut and everyone said he looked great and that he was a really good boy.

or something like that.......

goodluck

madmarchhare · 18/01/2006 12:52

Chocolate. I normally dont do bribes but I make an exception for hairdresses/doctors (not the dentist though ).

purpleturtle · 18/01/2006 12:53

Ds was being very wriggly for the hairdresser last time, despite me having him on my lap. After a few minutes the hairdresser (mum of 3) made serious eye-contact with him, showed him the scissors and told him quite sternly that they were very sharp and if he didn't sit still then he or she would get hurt. Did the trick.

FrannytheQuinoaEater · 18/01/2006 12:55

Yes huge bribery is the answer. What worked for ds was letting him squirt me with the mister spray thingy they have while the hairdresser snipped away. I was soaked by the end but his hair looked great

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calebsmummy · 18/01/2006 13:05

Yup, I reckon bribary is the route I will be taking. Why am I so worried about taking my little one to the hairdresser? He will probably create a noise...but hey they are used to that...aren't they? He may come out with half a haircut not the end of the world I suppose.

He doesn't seem so anti it at the moment, but we all know 3 year old change their minds whenever they feel like it!

He wants a Fireman Sam haircut

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Hallgerda · 18/01/2006 13:19

Only Fireman Sam? Cheer up, it could be Elvis! Smarties worked for me (as a treat for after rather than during). For future appointments it is worth noting that some hairdressers are better with children than others - DS2 got a very bad haircut from a rather weedy young man in a barber's shop, and I subsequently went to the local unisex hairdresser who was prepared to entertain such notions as the fast-asleep-in-the-pram cut and also recognised the need to get on with the job quickly. (None of mine made it to 3 before needing a proper haircut).

Good luck!

beasmum · 18/01/2006 13:22

maybe don't expect too much? Just aim to get a trim enough to get the hair out of his eyes. He will get used to it as time goes on and you can go for 'styles' a bit more then maybe! But for the first time just aim low and then you probably won't be disappointed!!

cod · 18/01/2006 13:23

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calebsmummy · 18/01/2006 15:39

Weeeeellll....looking around Winchester I can see that the longer hair style seems to be the in thing at the moment. Certainly lots of my 12 year old ds friends have it. Caleb will certainly look very cool in amongst them!

As you probably gathered my child still has all of his hair, bar one snip! He was NOT doing it! He told the hairdresser 'Me dundid my 'air already! You not cut it!!'

To be fair to him, she didn't try very hard. I think he knew she was a pushover from the start! I did say just start and he will be fine, but she was very hesitant.

So I still have my angelic looking (if not behaving) blonde curly headed little man. And I will have to try my hairdressing skills on him in the bath tonight. Maybe that grade 2 isn't such a bad idea after all

Cod, you are right about sending someone else in with him. Shall certainly try that one sometime, but as we don't live near family it'll have to wait. Did tell DH to 'just get it cut and then I can't do much about it' on Saturday while he took Ds1 to the barbers, but Caleb still came back with a full head of hair cos the barber reckoned I would only want it done at a hairdressers (quite right, but I had said it was ok)

Ah well, he just better not moan about his pictures with dodgy haircuts in years to come....

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rummum · 18/01/2006 16:00

I used to be a hairdresser [before kids] and I never minded cutting the kids hair,
I made sure the mum had a bribe, and I would give the child rollers to play with. Many wouldn't even have the gown round them. As long as I was quick and the parents didn't expect a precision cut!! it was OK...

I love the name Caleb by the way...

Fimbo · 18/01/2006 16:05

I had one successful visit to the hairdresser with my ds, where we all went (dh, dd & me) - he behaved beautifully, I went back the next time on my own with a friend - he screamed the place down. Next time, back we troop as a family and yes he sat in daddy's lap and was perfectly happy. So the morale of my tale is get Daddy to go!!

izzybiz · 18/01/2006 20:24

calebsmummy, i am in winchester too! i am thinking about gettin DDs hair cut soon, but she is only 20 months and it reaches her waist band at the back! how am i going to get her to sit still? quite often i have to fight to brush and tie it up!

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calebsmummy · 18/01/2006 20:51

Oooh Izzybiz, someone else in Winchester!! There aren't many of us are there! Well in fact you are the first I have heard of. Hello

I took Caleb to Blinkers in Winchester this afternoon and to be fair they were lovely, but too lovely iyswim. But Caleb is Mr Stubborn himself and if he doesn't want to do something he won't so you may have more luck. I tell you what, you take Caleb and I will take your little girl, do Cods suggestion.

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calebsmummy · 18/01/2006 21:21

Ooh thought I'd better say, I cut Calebs hair myself in the end tonight....again (sigh) And guess what, he sat lovely and still Ah well, at least he still has some curls, you can't tell my shoddy snipping so much with them

Izzybiz, your little girl is between my 2 smaller ds's at just 1 and just 3. How do you fancy a meet up sometime? (Can you tell I am desparate for friends - lol) We moved here in September from London before ds1 started secondary school (he is 12) and I am trying to find a new network of friends again after leaving behind my lovely friends in London
My e-mail is bexatpeeringsdotnet with all the relevant things filled in instead of words. drop me a line,it'd be great to hear from you!!

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Babyblue2 · 18/01/2006 21:35

Just like to add that my DD1 is nearly 3 and has curly hair. She hates having it cut (washed or brushed), she will not subject herself to bribery, shouts no and cries through the entire 'ordeal'. Obviously we don't get her hair cut often but when we do, we just have to tell the hairdresser to get on with it. Totally embarrassing, but hey-ho thats life!

amyjade · 19/01/2006 11:49

Hi Calebsmummy

Believe it or not i'm from winchester too!!!

Izzybiz is my sister in law, My Dd2 is 7 months old. Not sure if you have read my other threads but we sadly lost Dd1 in April 05 to meningitis.

It would be nice for us all to meet for a cofee or something, as you can imagine i don't get out much and find it difficult to see my old friends so it will do me good to meet some new mums.

One of us will email you soon.

Any more Winchester mums out there?

noddyholder · 19/01/2006 11:51

bribe him!

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calebsmummy · 19/01/2006 12:34

Amyjade,

I am so sorry about your dd1, I can only imagine how awful is must have been and still probably is for you! I would love to meet up with you and izzybiz, just don't make your little girls look too cute or I may start getting broody again (I have 3 boys, whom I adore but they don't look so great in pink) I look forward to hearing from you.

Noddy - I have!!!! He doesn't go in for bribary it seems.

Oh amyjade and izzybiz, when we do meet my child will be the one with the dodgy haircut

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CelluliteQueen · 22/01/2006 22:42

My DS (aged 2.6) has the most beautiful long blonde curly hair an is often mistaken for a girl.

We took him to my hairdresser for a tidy-up in the summer and he sat on his daddy's knee and SCREAMED the place down.

I have since given him the odd trim myself but his hair does get terribly tangly. It is so gorgeous though!

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