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Mummy and little boys bathing together......?

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Meanoldmummy · 14/01/2006 14:14

I've always enjoyed having my babies in the bath with me, ever since DS1 was born. I bath every day and it just seemed the right thing to do, as well as being fun and lovely. However DS1 is 3 now and I've sort of stopped doing it lately and started putting them in together without me... I suppose I'm worried that it might be "inappropriate" for a three year old boy to be in the bath with his naked mother, especially now that he asks questions about body parts etc (which I have always tried to answer frankly and without embarrassment)... I feel that DS2 (16mths) is missing out on the lovely intimate bathtimes with Mummy that his brother had, and I miss having them in with me too. Any thoughts? Is it perfectly natural or is it bordering on child abuse? I'm very confused.

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mandieb · 16/01/2006 00:07

i still have a bath with my 6yr old .I am a normal mother with a normal son its only skin after all .

Charlee · 16/01/2006 01:45

I bath with my ds, so does his dad and even his nan. He is only a baby im not so sure about when hes 3 but at the moment i know hes having a bath with people i love and trust who are his close family so i dont see a problem. I always bathed with my mum as a toddler and my sisters.

bobbybobbobbingalong · 16/01/2006 07:13

Just got back from a 4 day holiday with just ds and we had to do everything together, include showers and sleeping in same bed.

Niddlynono · 16/01/2006 07:23

I can't even have a bath without DS (3) stripping off and climbing in. I don't see anything wrong with that, apart from the fact that I'd like the bath to myself sometimes.

Pfer · 16/01/2006 07:56

lol at trying to have a bath without one of the ds's getting in with me! I try to have one when they are asleep otherwise it's shared showers which is even harder.

DS1 has noticed mummy hasn't got a willy and has asked daddy to go to the shop to get one so we can stick it one with sticky tape.....bless...

Can't see a problem with little boys bathing with mummy at all, in fact DH has more trouble with little boys trying to pull on 'things' like they do their own!

Pfer · 16/01/2006 08:13

ds1 is 4yo and ds2 is 16mnths.

ruty · 16/01/2006 11:57

its so depressing that we some see nakedness as something bad. When I was with a group of friends in Germany we all wanted to use the sauna after swimming. Off we went in our swimming costumes, until a fierce pool attendant marched in and told us swimming costumes were not allowed. After a bit of giggling and embarrassment we all took them off and then after a few minutes it felt perfectly natural. I had a German friend as a teenager who used to stroll around the bedroom we shared on holiday, naked, after a shower. Now I don't think German children are scarred for life by this lack of shame about their body!

eefs · 16/01/2006 12:12

DS1&2 come and chat with me in the morning when I shower - I love that they are so relaxed that they don't notice if I am nekkid' or not. When they want to stop they'll stop, simple as.

mumfor1sttime · 16/01/2006 14:49

Such an interesting thread. My ds is 1 and bathes with me and dh about once a week. I have never thought about when it would stop.

I dont remember bathing with either of my parents, and have never seen my dad naked. I used to chat to mum when she was in the bath, I would sit on the loo seat, so fairly open on nudity, and gave us a chance to chat about girly things.
When we had sleep overs at my Grandparents, me and my brother (me age 6 him age 8) would get into bed with my Nan and have breakfast in bed, which was great! My Grandad wouldnt join us though. Feel it is a generation thing and he was probably feeling awkward.

I dont believe that there is anything wrong with sharing baths, as a family you have to decide what is right for you.

Twiga · 17/01/2006 23:02

Not had time to read the whole of this - will make time at a later point. Dh and I were discussing around this issue a couple of days ago - we've a 4 month old dd and we both have her in the bath with us on a regular basis. We love having a lazy Saturday morning and dispite the tight fit all three of us will sometimes have a bath together as part of getting up slowly. Dd is a real daddy's girl and they love their bath times wether together or just dd in the bath. Dd loves the water and with one or both of us in with her we can have the water deeper and she can have a real swim around - we've noticed that when she's inwith us in the deeper water she chills out more than when she's in by herself. When in by herself she's much more active and splashy, so it's nice to see her learning that baths can be a relaxing time too.

Nudistmom · 07/10/2023 15:29

I bathe with my son he is 6 and it brings us together saves water no harm

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