12 day old baby- feel like it's all going horribly wrong again!

[christmastreebow]

Hi there this is DC2 so you'd think I'd be calmer this time but not at all. DD is 5 and back at school after xmas which is a relief though I feel so guilty for feeling that!

DS is 12 days old and for the first 9 days or so he just slept and it seemed so easy by comparrisson to DD who was a grotty baby. Now DS seems to have woken up a bit he is restless and grumpy, I don't feel like I know how to settle him because I don't know him! He seems to struggle to fall asleep. I feed him to sleep he settles for 5 mins then cries again. He cries whatever I do and I am feeling that horrible anxiousness I had with DD. I so wanted a different experience this time but I have no idea why he's crying! He was awake screaming from 9-12 last night, wakes 3 times to feed and I am so exhausted!

I don't know what he wants and I feel so useless. He is just so grumpy :-(

I had the same with ds, lactation consultant found he had tongue tie, clearly he was feed feed feed to get enough. A quick snip and a different boy! (less torture for my nips too)

Hi, my DS had reflux, it comes with different symptoms but basically wouldn't settle well, especially lying down, and it turned out he was evidently in pain, gaviscon for babies did the trick from the gp. So this may be a thought?
Or perhaps a growth spurt and unsettled as catching up with feeds after a sleepy spell?
Hot weather also maybe contributing to unsettled behaviour (if your in uk)
I would use the dummy if its helping.
I hope it resolves soon for you.