My 9 year old DS has developed very slowly - school says he is very, very young for his age. He has a twin brother who appears to be about two years older in his general maturity and attitude. DS is getting good scores at school so the teachers don't see a problem. However his ability to focus on anything and commit to it is very noticeable and becoming a problem. He loves playing the clarinet and has played for nearly three years now. But although he aspires to taking a music exam he just won't commit to any sort of practice, just seems incapable of doing so, rather than just lazy. School says that this is normal in an immature 9 year old and we should just give him time. On the other hand he does need to learn self-discipline sooner or later....preferably before school work starts getting more difficult.
What would you do? Cajole him every day until he learns self-discipline, or let it go? (we already did this last year)