Ok so ive 22 week old twin boys who are in their own room.
They go down to bed at 7..and are usually asleep within 5 minutes.... they go down in their cots for naps every day...my problem is the one of them wakes FREQUENTLY through the night. I mean frequently.... last night it was 1am, 1,45am, 3.20..cried for 20 minutes...he was picked up and immediatly stopped (we try not to pick him up when he is crying, during the night, unless we know there is something wrong) then when I placed him back in his cot he woke immediatly and cried again.... my partner then came in a did the same thing.He slept until 5.... then screamed again, so we out him into the bed with us I know i know we arent meant too. And we really are trying to encourage healthy sleep, BUt its been like this for a month now! before the 4 month mark he slept from 7 - 5.30...
I have tried EVERYTHING. Except controlled crying, I dont know enough about it, and am thinking something has to give, Its affecting alal our days. The baby is shattered and grizzly throughout the day, Im exhausted, my DP cant function in work.... HIs brother ahs recently started to be woken by him.
I havent let him cry it out.....as in controlled crying, yet.... we are boht there when theys tir and I think that the problem is us. He doesnt know how to get himself back off to sleep..... as we always settle him , as we are desperate to go back to sleep.
He naps no problem, and knows the difference between night and day, and like I said goes to sleep no problem at all....its juts helping him stay asleep. Its not hunger, sickness, wet nappies etc... too hot or cold...trust me this is my obsession at the moment. Given him teething gel, incase he is teething. etc....
Has any one done the controlled crying... when you did it did your baby use a dummy and did u put it back in every time you went int to settle them... need to know.
An tips at all..... !! Thanks ...much appreciated.