My 20 month old goes to grandma's (my mums) one day a week and has been since the age of 1, up till now all has been well but now she cries when left, won't look or talk to grandma, always wants to go to other people but grandma and its becoming very upsetting for me, and grandma. I know my mum treats her the same as I would, doesn't spoil her and does say no when needed (I know like any 20 month she hates being told no) Has anyone else experienced this and how can we get through what I hope is just a phase??