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Serves me right for being so smug I know, but ....

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TubbyDuffs · 10/07/2011 13:13

My 20 month old has always slept well, fabulously well, she has two sleeps in the day, nice long ones, and goes down at night at 7pm without a peep.

Yes, I was smug, but now the little horror won't go in her cot, and has gone from happy to go and even putting herself to bed, to crying the house down and screaming, she is hoarse at the moment!

I can't stand the crying it out, well I can, but only for about 10 minutes max and then I fold.

Someone tell me its just a phase and my little sleepy angel will be back soon.... someone, anyone?

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RandomMess · 10/07/2011 13:24

time to go down to one nap a day me thinks......

ASByatt · 10/07/2011 13:26

Hmm I would also look at the daytime naps.
Lots of DC have dropped all daytime sleep by that age - not saying that's what your DD needs, but 2 'nice long sleeps' in the day sounds like a lot.

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 10/07/2011 13:27

Yep I think it's time for just one daytime nap.

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TubbyDuffs · 10/07/2011 13:31

She is fighting all sleep though at the moment, rubbing her eyes, obviously tired, but just wanting to snuggle with me rather than go in her cot.

Even if she didn't sleep in the day or had plenty of sleep in the day, she has always liked to go to bed at night and now she is screaming like a banshee when I even walk towards her cot with her.

She is my third child, and the others liked their sleep too, in fact slept better at night if they had had the sleeps in the day. My eldest was 3 before he totally did away with a daytime nap.

Its just the crying and screaming that it totally getting to me, its like she's scared of her cot.

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naturalbaby · 10/07/2011 13:32

i have a 23month old who hasn't been as good as your dd but i think 19 months is a big development growth spurt and classic upside down routine phase.

we got him settled and sorted finally sleeping through around 12months and then a couple of months ago he started playing up big style and is up messing around till 9pm most nights. he is totally exhausted, morning naps were given up a long time ago and lunchtime naps are a fine line between too much and not enough so he's either over tired or hyper all night.

he's just had a minimum afternoon sleep and is refusing to get out of bed now!

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 10/07/2011 13:38

Well, mine wasn't ever a great sleeper, but at that age she had been going through a lovely easy phase of nice bedtimes, happy to be put down awake, etc. And then she also suddenly started really resisting her cot, complaining if we put her in it, or going to sleep but waking up within half an hour and wailing. Totally out of character even for her non-sleepy phases.

We switched her to a bed. It made a huge difference immediately - admittedly, she spent the next couple of weeks testing out her freedom and gleefully rampaging around her room, but she was happy to go to bed again. And once the novelty wore off she started staying in the bed and sleeping properly.

RandomMess · 10/07/2011 13:39

Well I did pick up put down with mine, never left them to scream in the cot but it may be a vicious circle as too many naps in the day so she's now panicking about being left to scream in the cot even though she is tired?

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 10/07/2011 13:42

Sorry I meant to say this was at 21 months we switched her.

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TubbyDuffs · 10/07/2011 13:45

I was thinking of making the move to a bed, will have to go and sort out a gate for the door, but might make it my mission this weekend.

My eldest son went into his own bed around this age, and he was always fine with it. In fact my second son wasn't much older, as he'd learnt how to climb out of his cot by then.

Yes, think it may be time for a bed, and just to let her sleep in the day when we are in the car and she falls off herself or when out in the pram.

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DeWe · 10/07/2011 16:17

Wouldn't worry about what the others did. Dd1 would have still ideally had a (short by then) afternoon nap when she went to school at nearly 5yo. Dd2 dropped all naps at just over 2yo.
I'd cut it down to 1 nap. You may well find she increases the length of that nap and she's napping for nearly as long, but it may well make a difference.

Tgger · 10/07/2011 22:52

1 nap should be plenty at this age. Could she be teething? Those last teeth are awful and it affected my DD's sleep a bit, including naps. Best to keep the routine and it'll come back good. Probably bit young to give up naps completely, but one should be fine rather than 2.

TheSecondComing · 10/07/2011 23:03

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TubbyDuffs · 11/07/2011 12:53

Bless her, she's had about 20 minutes in the car today and that's it, its now nearly 4pm here... think I'll try for bed at about 6pm tonight!

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mistressploppy · 11/07/2011 13:26

Just popping in to say my excellent sleeping DS did this and it turned out to be an ear infection! Just a thought, keep an eye out for anomalies

RalphGnu · 12/07/2011 08:29

Hi, my 19 month DS has started doing the same, he's teething very badly though at the moment so after being in bed a few hours he wakes up crying, chewing on his fingers and dribbling like mad. Unfortunately the only things that soothes him is Calpol and being in bed with me, so poor DF gets relegated to the spare room.

pipkin35 · 12/07/2011 11:12

My DD got a 'fear' of the dark around this age (maybe 22 months) - and yes, cutting day sleep to only 45 mins (never any longer) helped a bit too, but she still might fall asleep if we're out n about too..

I don't wanna take cot sides off just yet, she's still in a grobag so am trying to keep her cot for as long a poss since once those cot sides are off - all bets are off..

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TubbyDuffs · 12/07/2011 12:37

Thanks for all your replies. She didn't sleep at all yesterday, bar the short time in the car, and still she kicked off at bedtime. Luckily, she was beyond knackered by then, so didn't last long.

She has had a short (hour long) nap today, and she wasn't happy about going down, but was rubbing her eyes and stroppy and tired before I put her in the cot. She did cry a bit and shout, but only for about 5 or 10 minutes, not too long that I had to go and get her out. Hopefully that should suffice today and I can get her to bed tonight ok.

Strangely enough, she has always been a crappy eater, and really needs coaxing with her meals, she does eat, but its a bit of a battle of wills, anyway, last night, she saw her food on her high chair, shouted, "NUM" and tried to climb in, I stuck her in it, and watched in amazement as she stuffed her dinner down!

I think the aliens have been and baby swapped!

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mistressploppy · 12/07/2011 12:51

at 'NUM'!

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