Help!! getting my 9 yr old out of the house on time.

[mumski]

PLEASE I need help. I think I'm going to really lose it soon with my 9 year old and also my 10 yr old to some extent. We have a cuddle in bed then I send her to get ready. I go in 10 mins. later and she is still in her PJs playing. When we have to be out the door, I send her downstairs - to get her coat and shoes on - 5 mins later I come down and she's sat in the hallway doing everything but getting ready
I've tried EVERYTHING to get her to be ready. Explaining why/ charts /pocket money/counts downs/warnings. Whatever I do seems to make no difference until I completly lose my temper and start yelling.
Then she gets upset and starts to cry and is Soooo sorry - until the next time. Having warned her, she's had no television over the weekend and horseriding is cancelled tonight.
It's not just going to school it's at weekends too - so I don't think it's any worrys over school.
It's turning the mornings into a horrid experience even before we get out the door.
Please help.

Some one on mn once sugested that you take them in their PJs

That would only have to happen once

I did start driving out of the driveway while she only had one shoe on and no coat. But then had to stop and go and get it as it was so cold she would have frozen.

Same problem here. luckily my 2 respond to bribery and we have a new system that seems to be helping a bit. At 8.30 I start the clock timer. They have to clean their teeth, put on coats, shoes and brush hair etc by the alarm. If they make it on time they get a sweet that evenning.

It has worked most days but today they didn't make it due to mucking around. Once they know they've not earned their sweet it all goes pear shaped again because they have no more incentive. Has eased the pain a bit though!