*my 3 and half year old is attacking me everyday i need advice*

[loosingthewilltoo]

my daughter is 3 and half and everyday she bites me hits me digs her nails into kicks me punches me. Its normally just me and her step dad but she's very argumentive aggressive i feel like i'm walking on egg shells.

Lately if i don't carry her places she screams and will wet herself. i've done sticker charts, ive shouted, ive ignored her, tried to reason told her what she's doing isnt nice and hurts mummy but she just doesnt seem to care.

i'm the oldest of 6 children with 15 years between me and my brothers and they never behaved like this. i'm seriously lost on what to do it upsets me so much when she screams and attacks me in supermarkets in the street at home nursery everywhere else you can think of. i always remain calm and try and calm her down and soon as she is i try and engage her in doing something else and be happyand positive but its only a matter of time before she starts again i don't know what to do anymore.......

we tried the sticker chart and that worked well for about 3 months but its bee since jan she's gotten like this the chart stopped working she didnt care, then my own failing it got used as well you wont get a sticker, which i know didnt help.

the naughty step we tried for a few weeks maybe 3 max but she broke the door and would wet herself. so we have started giving warnings for bad behaviour and violence she just gets put straight in her room untill she is calm or calm enough to speak to, which isn't ideal when im out on my own with her.

I've shouted back, i've totally ignored her this really didn't work i looked like i'd been attacked by vampires! we also take her dressing up clothes away from her as she loves theses and understands she can't have them till shes good but then this isn't brilliant as only works if shes good too but at the moment she's just out of control.

i've not been able to leave the house today because of this. Any suggestions i'm totally willing to try!

she also suffers from anxiety on what shes doing next so we're currently in process of making a what am i doing to day keyring to take out and picture board for at home. to try and stop the constant questions.

thank you so much i'll def give these a good try i can't carry on like this! thanks again.