9 yo caught looking up rude words on google at school

[blushingm]

the head mistress called me at work to 'discuss' an incident yesterday afternoon. It was 'ladies chest parts'

i thought that she'd have encountered this sort of thing before and didn't think it was that serious. Now do you think she is somewhat over reacting or should i take it a bit more seriously

ds said he typed in boobies

By secondary school this is definitely a real problem and a serious breech and can result in pretty serious disciplinary procedures occuring, including temporary exclusion.

And if he'd forgotten, he truly knows it now!
OP introduce him to the dictionary as others have suggested.

At his age we were all typing 58008 into our calculators and turning them upside down.

I don't think his naturally curiosity is a problem, but he does need to understand that public networks (school/library/work) are not the place to try and explore that curiosity.

Thanks Feenie, I didn't spot the spelling mistake.

Bad Goblin, proof-read all posts properly.

I understand all that Hulababy (as a former primary school teacher).

But do you really think blushingm needs to be rung to be told her son has done this? I can see the school needs to check on its computer settings, I can see blushingm's ds needs to be told off for not getting on with his work and for using the computer in a way the school finds inappropriate, but I can't see why blushingm herself needs to be phoned at work to be told about it.

Do you really think his only motive was to see picturesmof nursing women? Keep digging, blushing.

Check their use of internet policy.
Ours has parent being informed as one of the steps to take.

I am still traumatised from the time a few years ago when I was supervising a year 5 class, and one of them, using a completely innocent search term brought up an image of a lady doing something with a bottle that no lady should do. Particularly not with a glass beer bottle. There could have been a nasty accident.
Luckily I was walking behind the computer at the time and managed to close it down at once before the child had had a proper look. The thing is, no matter what safeguards you put in place, children will try out naughty search terms - but as other posters have said the school needs to be seen to be taking it seriously, otherwise it is neglecting its safeguarding responsibilities. But a 9 year old typing in boobies is totally normal of course.

By telling mum it highlights to the child how serious it is. And it IS serious in terms of internet use at school.

I would expect, as a parent of an almost 9y, to be told of this if my DD was found doing something similar.

As does ours.

Hadn't noticed others had similarly used wrong breech/breach! We are all fixated on trousers, obviously.

I would expect to be told, but at the end of the day. A call while at work sounds more serious to me. Was it at the end of the school day you were called, or in school time?

At least he wasn't googling dragon butter.

I think she's overreacting. I'm sure the school has a good anti-porn protection thingy. Sounds like normal 9yo boy interest.

Anti-porn protection thingies are nowhere near foolproof, VivaLeBeaver.

VivaLeBeaver - as I have already posted, security software is very limited in its capability ime.

Sexually abused children often have an interest in sexual related material from a very young age.

Years of not taking this seriously has let down children. Surely it isbetter to have robust system even if a few parents get outraged than not pick up when a child is crying out for help.

These policies are not about the odd child googling boobies. They are also to ensure that vulnerable children are kept safe.

I wonder if children know how serious a breach of school internet policy it is? And I wonder what message that gives them?

Yes, see earlier biscuits story!

I was given a 'proper' Oxford English dictionary (about 4 inches thick..) when I was 11, and about to start my new school to help with my homework. As soon as Mum's back was turned, I turned to the letter F, and can quote word for word:

Fart : Emission of wind from the anus (slang)

I quickly shut the book, feeling a bit guilty.

My 8 year old ds did this at home - he googled "niked women" (sic). Although we talked to him about it, we weren't overly concerned, as some else said, it's the modern day equivalent of looking up rude words in the dictionary. However, I would absolutely want to know if he had done this at school so that I could talk to him and monitor his home use (which I do anyway - he was sitting in the living room with everyone else when he did it!) I did actually speak to school about it because he told me that another boy had told him what would happen if he typed it in google and I wanted them to make his mother aware for the same reasons that I would want to know.

I don't think I had a particularly sheltered upbringing (I remember having to write lines for calling someone a 'bloody bugger' in games)

Why I looked up such a tame word is beyond me.....

merryscot - digging????? what??????

I was called in school time - ds had just left her office

apparently he wasn't the only one that lesson - 2 other boys did it too

If several of them involved then even more reason to make a bigger deal out of it imo.

I clearly have no family values at all. We have blue dog net protection and dd1 is always asking me why it won't let her search for Mr. Hanky the Christmas Poo (her friend has older sisters) and other slightly unsavoury songs.

She has also been caught Googling 'kissing Justin Bieber' 'Justin Beiber with no top on' and the normal 'bum 'poo' 'boobies' etc. She just thinks it's funny

Although I do understand why the school had to take it seriously.