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9 yo caught looking up rude words on google at school

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blushingm · 19/03/2011 21:10

the head mistress called me at work to 'discuss' an incident yesterday afternoon. It was 'ladies chest parts'

i thought that she'd have encountered this sort of thing before and didn't think it was that serious. Now do you think she is somewhat over reacting or should i take it a bit more seriously

ds said he typed in boobies

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Goblinchild · 19/03/2011 21:51

feenie, if it's the first time he's crossed Big Brother monitoring him, hopefully he'll be so stunned and alarmed that it will be the last time.

'At 11.10am on computer number 37 you did wilfully and with full knowledge of the vile and disgusting nature of your query google 'Boobies'
Bang go your chances of Oxbridge littleb, report for reorientation.'

We do take it seriously, there's a lot of much worse stuff out there that's only a click away.
Just because there might be a giggle in the staffroom doesn't mean we don't have our serious and professional face on when dealing with such sordid activities.

Panzee · 19/03/2011 21:51

Lovely biscuits! I've never heard them called that before!

FannyFifer · 19/03/2011 21:52

Amerryscot, get a grip!

Hulababy · 19/03/2011 21:52

Child protection issue for school because inappropriate images could be displayed on screen to underage children.

Net nannies are not fail safe. Children have to b taught about safe use of the internet and appropraite use, esp in places like school.

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blushingm · 19/03/2011 21:52

merryscot - how does googling boobies mean he has no respect for women?

I've explained to him that what he did is inappropriate in school at that he has any questions etc he can just come and ask. I don't want him to think it's wrong or dirty or shameful to be curious about sex and bodies etc

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Feenie · 19/03/2011 21:52

"Just because there might be a giggle in the staffroom doesn't mean we don't have our serious and professional face on when dealing with such sordid activities."

Indeed, Goblinchild.

Panzee · 19/03/2011 21:54

But it's not that he has accidentally discovered an inappropriate image - he was looking for boobies!
A bit of embarrassment from the Head will do him no harm. Snurk at "ladies chest area".

Feenie · 19/03/2011 21:54

Yes, panzee, was a new one on me too! He was genuinely searching for pictures of lovely biscuits, btw - Y5 DT topic. The report was to the network people to sort out their filters, if they can.

Knackeredmother · 19/03/2011 21:55

That's just funny! Am scared for when my dcs start school, I'm obviously a bad parent.

amerryscot · 19/03/2011 21:55

If that is not a rhetorical question, you have much to worry about, blushing.

How can a parent support such titivation? I am gobsmacked,

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blushingm · 19/03/2011 21:55

hula - i can totally understand what you mean - yes. But I don't think a 9 yo would think that he wanted graphic images, just pictures i think would have done for him. we didnt have internet so biology text book and the dictionary were what we used........

had to at lovely biscuits though!

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Pagwatch · 19/03/2011 21:57

I would expect the school to handle it in a serious way with the child (as I did with dd) but to assume , with me, that it is mere curiosity unkess there was good reason to assume anything else.

Family values?presumptuous, preposterous po-faced bollocks

Goblinchild · 19/03/2011 21:57

I just find it so naive that parents often assume that when you are reprimanding a child for something with a disapproving expression, it means that the teacher as a human has no sense of humour.
Rather like the assumption that reception teachers can only count to 20 and have no idea who Dostoyevsky was.
Yes it's funny and normal for a 9yo to look up rude words.
No it's not OK to do it in school.

Dumbledoresgirl · 19/03/2011 21:58

I think the head needs to get a grip. If a head had rung me at work to tell me my son had been googling boobies, I would have been cross at the needless interruption to my work.

Well done your ds I say. We all used dictionaries to look up "dirty" words when we were kids. I for one would have loved there to have been some graphic images to go with the definitions.

All totally normal and healthy as far as I am concerned.

Hulababy · 19/03/2011 21:59

Ofcourse he didn't want graphic images, but because net nannes are limited in theri capabilities, he could have got much more graphic than he intended. And had he done so I doubt you'd have been too impressed with school.

But by 9y it is partly down to your DS's responsibility too. It is very unlikely ime that he has not be told about internet safe use at school or that he doesn't know that he shouldn't be googling such terms on school computers.

Regardless of what e might think is natural curiousity, teachers and schools have to take a firm line on inappropriate intenret use.

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blushingm · 19/03/2011 21:59

merryscot - are you trying to be . If you are serious then I am gobsmacked!!!!! god even midwives say 'try him/her at the boob'..........boobies is not disrespectful

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GKlimt · 19/03/2011 21:59

Relatively innocent sounding 'Big Boobs' brings up a very explicit site with anal sex, multiple penetration etc

Not naked ladies!!

Found it in my DCs history and not stopped by OpenDNS set at the highest level.

Pagwatch · 19/03/2011 22:00

Google is odd. Biscuits is very odd.

Dh looked for swings for the garden big enough for ds 2 using google image. The adult swing images he got amused his team enormously

Goblinchild · 19/03/2011 22:00

It's a serious breech of policy, so she phoned. If that's not appropriate at your workplace, tell the head.
I get contacted by email.

Gottakeepchanging · 19/03/2011 22:02

One of the reasons she may have been concerned is that some (sone not all) young children who have a sexual interest do so because of underlying situations, that is why schools take it seriously

Goblinchild · 19/03/2011 22:03

Poor DS, that sounds very dodgy. I get contacted by email because I need to know if he's had an issue at school, deadlines, exams, meltdowns, that sort of thing.

Dumbledoresgirl · 19/03/2011 22:03

I was talking hypothetically.

It's a serious breech of policy? Really? It sounds like a normal 9 year old boy having a normal interest in sexual matters.

I agree he shouldn't be doing it in school, but I don't need the school to ring me every time my child needs to be told off.

Hulababy · 19/03/2011 22:06

Dumblesdoresgirl - It is normal curiousity. BUT schools can't be seen to be allowing their computer systems to be used by curious 9yos. If something really dodgy came up on screen they could have lots of probles from annoyed parents. And TBH by 9y children DO know that they shouldn't be doing it. they are told about these things at school when first using computers and pretty much each year, if not term thereafter.

Feenie · 19/03/2011 22:06

Correct, serious breech of internet safety policy.

Feenie · 19/03/2011 22:08

breach

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