Its a struggle to get my 11yr old DD to wash and make a little effort with her appearence, she can often smell quite bad of BO, and can get out the shower smelling the same as when she got in, same with her hair, can be as greasy after a wash as before, i know it's not physical as if i get cross and practically stand over her she 'scrubs up' well, its the same with clothes, if i take her shopping, she just does not want to be there and talks to me like dirt, i could cry it gets that bad, i let her choose what she wants, bt still she just stands there giving me the evils, i dont have much money at all bt always try to do my best for both my DDs. Have tried to talk to her and have said we all have to take care of personal hygene, and have to buy new clothes from time to time. The odd thing is she wants to be more popular at school and has told me so many times that people dont like her, and wants to be more popular, most of the girls in her year (just gone to big school sept)are starting to be interested in 'girly' things so i dont understand why she is like this. Other than all this she is very bright, in all the top classes at school, takes an interest and has an oppinion about all kinds of current issues, has a great sence of humour. what can i do to help her be happy, i love her so much it brakes my heart to see her so down on herself