toilet training 2 years on

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my daughter is now 3 and a half and has been toilet trained since 2 years of age. However she is still having accidents, having wet herself 4 times today. (she is 4 in January). She is dry at night, but a nightmare in the day. Saying that she does have periods of time where she is fine, however i cant remember one of those recently. I have tried all sorts of things to stop it from bribary to punishments, but nothing seems to work. I do not know what to do now and am being driven to dispair. Anyone else experienced this with children of this age, and any suggestions to stop it.

Positive comments worked for me. Praise her over the top we she does go on the toilet and tell her she is a big girl like you and she should try not to have accidents because mommy and daddy does not wet their "nickies and undies". Have you tried stickers? Smiley face for every good one and a sad face for accidents and in the evening count them and that will bepend on how big a treat she can have. I got away with dried fruit as a treat. Hope this is helpful.

We had something similar with our son, would be ok sometimes but would go through phases of wetting especially at nursery, it seemed that he just couldn't be bothered to stop what he was playing to go to the loo.
We made a month long reward chart and highlighted Fridays, then gave him a 'smiley' face if he had been dry all day (and for the first week a 'sad' face if he had an accident), then on Fridays, if he had only smiley faces he got a special surprise (a mini-lego, got a batch very cheap from ebay)..he stopped wetting by the end of the first week, and by the end of the month it was sorted. (He did used to come home and look all plaintive saying 'I didn't wet myself today, can I have a present?' for a little while afterwards, but usually a hug would do.
Good luck.