DP hates Tabitha........

[Jaggers]

.........If a girl can i just call her that anyway, or do I have to compromise?

Oh it's horrible. Tabby?

What about Thea or Martha ? They have some of the same sounds.

It's a cat name

As long as he hates the name Tabitha, and doesn't hate your DD who is already called Tabitha, I don't see what the big deal is.

I'm sure there are plenty of names that you hate.

Tabby is pretty awful as is Tabs. How about Agatha? Aggie is cute (well I think so)

How can you possibly need to ask? It is his child too. You have to pick a name you both like.

I am totally baffled by this idea that the mother gets to pick the child's name.

I couldn't name our child without dp's agreement, it's just wrong

choose something you both like! It's part of the fun!

I just love that name however tarty you are not the first person to point out it's a cat name.

May have to think of something else. At least DP and I have agreed on names if la bump is a boy.

I wouldn't chose a name with us being in agreement I was being flipant. But we just seem to have very different ideas on girls names.

Sorry it makes me think of a cat. Also you need to both like the name. Keep thinking...

How about Talitha as a compromise? Similar sound but no cat connotations, and can be Tally as a nickname.

My DH didn't much like Tabitha when I first suggested it. After I had given birth he was prepared to let me call her anything I liked. She's called Tabitha. He likes it now and agrees it really suits her.

We compromised, pre-birth, on Matilda. I'd almost come round to it but I just knew she was a Tabitha when I saw her. And I like both Tabby and Tabs although ours is usually called Tibby (don't like this, she made it up herself) or Topsy.

i quite like it but i am old enough to remember "bewitched".

We have a Tabitha and we shorten it to T. It was supposed to be Abi but that never fitted her personality. She's T.

I love Tabitha, but I think you should write lists and see if there's anything in common. You each should come up with 15 - 20 names and then start narrowing it down.

Have you considered Keziah/ Cassia, or Dinah?

Sorry but I don't like it. What other names do you like? What names does your DP like?

I LOVE the name Tabitha. But yes, you need to both agree. Talitha, as someone suggested, could work as a compromise?

Tabitha doesn't make me think of cats at all.
Tom does, but that doesn't stop many people from calling their child Tom, does it!

Can you go for other witchy names like Abigail or Samantha?

My name is Abigail! I didn't realise it was a witchy name!

(I love the name Samantha too, btw!)

My dd1 is Abigail- I love it too, honestly! And one of my favourite MNers is Samantha. I guess I see Abigail as witchy after the Salem story in The Crucible, and Samantha and Tabitha because of Bewitched.

Oh yes, I do remember The Crucible/Abigail character.
Nice choice for DD1 too!
Loved Bewitched! (The old tv series, not the film remake!).

OP, what about Abigail then!

< pootles off to cast (nice) spells >

I think Tabitha is a really great name but also think that your dh should have a say.