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Baby names

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Is it weird/mean

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Morloth · 22/02/2010 18:17

to name your DS2 James Something if his older brother is named Something James?

When we had DS1 we were just having the one child, so we used both boy names that we loved on him.

Now I am 37 weeks with DS2 and I want a Jimmy!

However, I don't want him to feel that he got a "used" name or is in anyway any less special that DS1.

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TubbyDuffs · 22/02/2010 18:20

No, if that's the name you want. How often are middle names actually used anyway?

Although would be a tad weird if you gave DS2 DS1's first name as a middle name too and just reversed his name.....

yama · 22/02/2010 18:22

I think it's fine. Shows you really like the name if anything.

I don't have a big sister so can't imagine if I would feel in any way negative about it.

Jimmy is a great name by the way.

ShowOfHands · 22/02/2010 18:24

It's fine. I know siblings where the eldest's middle name is the youngest's first name.

They're fine about it, quite proud in fact.

PacificDogwood · 22/02/2010 18:25

I sincerely hope that's fine as we are likely to do the same with DS2's middlename (Joseph) and soon-to-be-born DS4's first name (Joe).

Other lovely people on MN have reassured my that neither of them is likely to be too truamatised...

Jimmy is v cute, and James grown-up and dignified. Both lovely!

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Morloth · 22/02/2010 18:41

Sorry, yes the "Somethings" would be different.

Thanks for this guys, James is the only name we are even halfway near agreeing on, but was hesitant.

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Kyrie · 22/02/2010 18:59

I wouldn't, it's the first child's name and well he will have to share everything now and making him share his name too is a bit mean imo.

Isn't there any other names you could think off?

displayuntilbestbefore · 22/02/2010 19:07

I wouldn't either. What if your older son wants to be known by his middle name one day? My brother is known by his middle name now he's an adult as he preferred it to what my parents gave him as a first name.

It seems a bit unfair on the child to give them a name their brother already has. Also rather unimaginative, sorry to sound harsh but there must be other names you can think of?

I have 3 boys and the middle name we gave to ds1 is one of my favourite names which, had I known I was going to have 2 more boys, we would have held back and given it to one of the other boys as a first name but we had our first son and wanted to give him 2 lovely names so just had to think of 4 more names when the other 2 arrived.

mathanxiety · 22/02/2010 20:18

I would use another form of James, like Jago, Seamus, Hamish (is that a form of James?), instead of the actual name.

LynetteScavo · 22/02/2010 20:51

It's fine...just give DS2 DS1's fist name as him middle name.

Sorted.

allaboutme · 22/02/2010 20:53

bit odd imo
there are millions of names out there, you must like more than 2!

KAEKAE · 22/02/2010 23:26

I don't think I would....I know how you feel though as we gave out DD thee middle name Ava and I love it so much I wish I'd kept it for a first name for anymore future DDs! But I would never use it now I just feel they need their own individuality.

Fanfare · 23/02/2010 08:33

No, we couldn't bring ourselves to do it. As much as I regret the compromise name we ended up with, I'm still glad we didn't use DS1's middle name. DS2 will have enough hand-me-downs in life without his first name to boot.

birdofthenorth · 23/02/2010 09:58

Well, I love the names James and Jimmy, but I think it's a no from me. Agree with the comment that there must be more than two names you like!

I love my DSS's middle name and would previously have listed it on my boys name choices but have ruled it out on the grounds that it looks a bit odd to both DSS and new DS. Looks like recycling!

Unless of course it's a family name... in which case I think you can get away with more in the name of tradition or sentimentality!

pookamoo · 23/02/2010 10:06

I know a family with 3 girls and they all share a name, like this:

Mum: Laura Susan

DD1: Emily Laura

DD2: Katherine Emily

DD3: Sarah Katherine

(These are not their real names, btw!)

I like it!

ninedragons · 23/02/2010 10:09

I think as an incidental benefit, it could be quite effective in heading off sibling jealousy at the pass.

Is DS1 old enough to feel chuffed and proprietorial about his little brother being named after him?

minipie · 23/02/2010 10:52

Hmm. Is it a strong family name so you can say "we named you both after Grandad" or whoever?

If not, I'd probably try to choose another name... unless there is honestly nothing else that comes close for you.

If you'd intend to call him "Jimmy" anyway, why not just call him Jim rather than James. Yes historically Jim is short for James but there are now so many short forms that have become names in their own right (eg Molly) that it wouldn't IMO be odd to call him Jim.

mopsyflopsy · 23/02/2010 11:03

I don't think it would be fair for your DS1, as James is one of his names. To him, it is HIS name. He may well decide to use it later on in life - it's up to him. It is part of his individuality imo.

And given that there are thousands of lovely boys names out there, can't you search a little more to find names that are unique to DS2?

Journey · 23/02/2010 11:20

I wouldn't. It looks as if you couldn't be bothered thinking up another name for him.

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Morloth · 23/02/2010 14:51

We both like plenty of other names, the problem is that James is the only crossover.

Will continue pondering.

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