If you love a name and the MN jury say no...

[Pepa]

Don't give up!

A while ago I posted for views on a babyname Marilla Elizabeth...and was given generally negative opinions....I was so disappointed as after 36 weeks of trying to figure a name for baby #3 that DH and I BOTH liked, I was gutted that it was so poorly received by the good ladies of MN!

Anyway after another couple of weeks of searching through babyname sites and books we decided that there was no name we loved more and decided to call our daughter Marilla Elizabeth.

I was very nervous about letting people know her name at first but I have had nothing but very positive responses (even from my mum who has no problem in letting her opinions known usually!!)

Anyway even if people are just being nice I have decided that giving the baby the name we both loved was much better that trying to settle for a compromise...and I just wanted to pass on my experience to anyone else who is alone is loving a name for their expectant child - sometimes you are right and the rest of the world (MN world at least!) may not be!!!!

Personally I wouldn't give a rat's arse because I'd be confident in my opinion, especially in light of the fact the chosen name did not fit in to the same list of 10 names we see bandied on this board day-in, day-out from here to eternity.

Congratulations.

I agree with skihorse on this one. Im personally aghast that people spend so much time seeking opinions about baby names!
oh and congratulations OP

Absolutely, good for you and congrats on your bundle

I knew that a lot of folk wouldn't like BabyG's name so I deliberately didn't aks onhere. I liked it, didn't erally care if MN did too

I love Marilla Elizabeth!

My Mum didn´t like what I called my son & that didn´t make me change my mind, so strangers on the internet wouldn´t!

Congratulations!

Who cares what people think? Not me!

Congrats, Pepa.

I don't understand that whole 'ask mn' concept re baby names!

You either like it, in which case use it.
Or you don't, so don't!

I'm surpised people were negative about Marilla Elisabeth, and I agree that if you're using a "proper" but unusual name then ignore what people on here say about it.

I do think, however, that if you've chosen something really off the wall, made up or "unique" you should think a little about the opinions people voice, because the chances are that is the sort of reaction the child is going to get all its life! And as the aunt of children with names in that category, I can tell you it gets very very wearing after a while. Yes, people should shut up about it and how dare they, but the fact is they don"t and it is very hard standing out because of your name whether you want to or not. Babies cannot give informed consent to their name!

i would never be that bothered about MN opinions - names are very personal, i hate a couple of names because of people i went to school with.
I asked about dd's name on here in case there were any associatoins/stories/songs/celebs i didn't know about and might be negative. it was nice if people said they liked it but if they didn't - well i did & i'm her mum!

Well my DD1 is Eleanor - often criticised on here as a name that is 'common and boring'. But it's a family name and I love it. Whilst people give their opinions on here (after all it is a names forum), in RL MNers - or at least 99% of them - don't go round sneering at names. Congratulations on the birth of Marilla Elizabeth!!

Eleanor is lovely! Old french isn't it?

A lot of names come up on MN that I hate, I try to be diplomatic though (unless it's something like Moonshine Dingleberry) because we don't all like the same names. It wouldn't put me off if someone didn't like a name I liked unless it was for a really good reason like the initials spelt something rude or the child would be mocked for the rest of his/her life.

bellissima, my DD is Eleanor too

I agree completely with pp - the general consensus on here is that DD1's name is too popular, DD2's is chava nd DD3's should only be used for a boy - I love them all!

like Marilla too - very Anne of Green Gables

I think for some people there isnt an instant name they like, so when they have a few they just want to make sure they arent naming their child something really horrific. I remember asking on here about the name mason, and it ending up being a 270 reply thread or something about that, because I am in scotland and some folk told me how terrible it would be to call him mason (catholic thing). I went ahead anyways and that mason is now 16 months old. All i ever hear is how much his name is loved!

I dont think there is anything wrong with asking for opinions on here, just dont take it all too seriously, ultimately you cant please everyone.

i once asked what people what they thought on my sons name ,also on my soon to be grandson and i got a lot of flack ,but at the end of the day its your choice not other peoples some are just so rude to me and other things i posterd about ,i had to name change

Eleanor is lovely

I too am surprised that so many of us are so keen to seek 'approval' for their chosen name.

Without knowing someone's tastes/values, how relevant is their opinion anyway?

The person who dislikes my choice will probably choose names for their children that I don't like. Thats ok.

And finally, those of us who choose names that are universally 'loved' will be the one later to regret that the name is 'too popular' .

My ds has a name that is often described as 'poncy' on here, but in real life I have had nothing but lovely comments. Most importantly, my ds (now 13) loves his name and the fact that he's the only one in school with his name!

Agree that names are very personal, very much influenced by people we've met. So we're all going to have different associations.

Perhaps some people ask for opinions, so as to avoid the most loved i.e. most popular ones?

It's not about seeking approval. It's about looking for ideas and gauging people's reaction.

The Internet offers the opportunity to get a sense of the kinds of reactions people might have to a name. That is valuable, even if the reactions aren't positive but you decide they don't outweigh your love for the name.

The anonymity and rudeness of the web really come inti their own if you want to get honest opinions on names.

well done you!

i was told on here that my name choices for ds2 were "wanky" and that ds3's sounded girly and stupid

only ever had positive comments IRL though

Do people really think my name is common and boring. How hilarious!

I read a name thread yesterday where Elizabeth was dismissed as "lacking imagination". I don't even know what that means in the context of names.

People are wierd