If you love a name and the MN jury say no...

[Pepa]

Don't give up!

A while ago I posted for views on a babyname Marilla Elizabeth...and was given generally negative opinions....I was so disappointed as after 36 weeks of trying to figure a name for baby #3 that DH and I BOTH liked, I was gutted that it was so poorly received by the good ladies of MN!

Anyway after another couple of weeks of searching through babyname sites and books we decided that there was no name we loved more and decided to call our daughter Marilla Elizabeth.

I was very nervous about letting people know her name at first but I have had nothing but very positive responses (even from my mum who has no problem in letting her opinions known usually!!)

Anyway even if people are just being nice I have decided that giving the baby the name we both loved was much better that trying to settle for a compromise...and I just wanted to pass on my experience to anyone else who is alone is loving a name for their expectant child - sometimes you are right and the rest of the world (MN world at least!) may not be!!!!

On another post someone said a suggested boy's name would make him gay !

If only it could be that easy... I'd persuade Julian Clary to change his name to Mike and be straight... Mmmmm

I'll sugest that to him next time I see him!

I never know why people ask! I wouldn't. Some will love it and some will hate it. I love the name Elizabeth-probably because I hate names that are 'imaginative'.

Bellisima - my DD1 is Eleanor so I guess I'm doomed when it comes to choosing babynames according to the MN majority!

I think because DH and I just found it so hard to find any names we both liked and that "went" with our other children's names that I just wanted to feel out the general opinion on our choices - I found with my other children that when you start asking for people's opinion in RL it leads to a non-stop flow of suggestions and opinions!

I guess with my pregnancy hormones on overdrive, I just got the importance of finding a name that EVERYONE loved...way out of proportion!!!

Anyhow thanks to everyone for your responses!

pleased to read this thread, thanks for posting!

I wouldn't ask, as I know MNers would hate my children's names.

But no-one in RL is going to be as caustic as the vipers ladies here.

FWIW, I really like Marilla!

Congrats!

I often wonder if anyone uses any of the names that pop on threads. Especially the ones where practically every suggestion is turned down.

Congrats Pepa!

Oh, I don't know.

I always approach the baby names threads as a bit of fun.

Something fairly lightweight in amongst all the angst and stress and madness.

If I thought for a moment that someone would decide against a name for their baby because of what Mumsnet had said ... then I'd think they were taking it all too seriously tbh.

Anyways, quite a lot of the time the people on baby namers are asking for suggestions, not opinions.

This section of MN baffles me. I look on it to get ideas on names but cannot understand why people ask for opinions. When my dh and I have chosen names for our dcs we kept it secret until the birth announcement so that noone could change our mind by responding negatively. Very few people respond badly once the baby has arrived and they hear the name. I find they either like the name or tell a white lie to be polite so everyone is happy. Except my mil who said "Well I suppose it will grow on us" but I expected nothing less from her.

Names are so subjective, it is a bit like asking what is your favourite colour. As it happens while browsing on here two of my dcs names have been discussed quite negatively which wasn't so great to read but as I said it is all subjective so heigh ho.

Oh, it's good fun, and interesting to get honest opinions, especially if you are wavering. TBH I think some people need to be told 'oi no!', really, hormonal woman should not be allowed to choose their baby names! I say this as someone who had a few choice ideas when pg!

However my DD's name was describe on here as sounding like a sanitary product

I agree with you op, although for some reason I can't help but read the baby name threads.

I have a formula for how well a name will be received on mumsnet -

Is name in top 100 - add lots of points
Is it in top 20 - minus a few points
Is it a name outside top 100 but gaining in popularity - add points.
Is it a name not typically used by the middle classes - minus lots of points

And there you have the result of the mumsnet jury.

Good for you pepa and congratulations I've just made myself furious reading a thread about my ds's name - apparently it used to be posh but now is unthinkable because it's popular and 'spans the classes'??? And there was I just thinking it was a lovely name - hadn't tracked the social naming trends of the last few years. Am now pg with another ds and certainly will not be asking for opinions on mn! Don't understand why it's necessary to be rude about other people's dcs' names. Rant over.

Marilla is a breath of fresh air....very good choice....I also like Mariella....i may add Marilla to my list....congrats on your baby daughter....

I should have looked it up first. I've had nothing but joke responses to the name Marilla.
Well done to you.

What I hate about the babynames topic is the references I see quite frequently to hormones as some sort of excuse for having an opinion about a name, as if we lose our mental capacity once we become pg. Why do we need to apologise for having an opinion about a name for our DCs this way? Why do we associate being pg with lack of brain power, or woolly confusion, or being overwhelmed by our bodies' natural functioning and thus unable to 'think straight'? We are reinforcing a negative stereotype every time we type this silliness.

BTW, very nice name, and congratulations.

COngrats on the birth of Marilla Elizabeth! I like the name (don't think I commented on your previous thread but I might have)

I think there is a value in asking MN what they think of a name, as in negative associations, is it overly-used - but in the end, it probably wouldn't affect my choice unless I'd missed some genital-related "humour" that would affect my poor DC throughout their life.

Congratulations Pepa
LOVE Marilla (didn't see original thread) or I'd have been there shouting the MN jury down
ENjoy your new baby

I love Mariella.

Can I suggest Mariel too?

I think my DD's name was once described here as sounding like a farm animal's name!

anyone who asks internet strangers opinion of baby name needs bumps felt

have some self belief in your own abilities,dithering and asking strangers is risible

as is the notion,that one has dibs on a name are daft.

all the silly my sister/best pal/neighbour stole my baby name. oh get a grip if a name is known in public domain anyone can chose it.esp when threads say i was going to call my daughter sophie/freya/grace
my son jack,sam,oliver
and the bitch stole it

Agree with SM.

Have never understood why people ask anyone what they should call their baby, let alone a bunch of strangers on an internet forum.

And how can you steal a name? I suppose it would make it akward if your sister who lived next door and you saw everyday called their son the same as you wanted to call your son who was born the same week......

But someone on your facebook friends list calling their DD Amy when you wanted to call your DD Amy - what the hell is the problem?

My niece (I wont call her dear because she isnt) did call her dog the same name as my DS but she did that on purpose because (coincedentally) she is a bitch.